icangetpastthis (original poster member #74602) posted at 12:20 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2025
One day I took them off and put them away and haven't worn them since. What did you do with your rings after divorce?
M = 40 yrs on DDay = May 2017
Me/BS = 59; WH = 61
In House Separated = May 2024
Filed For D = March 2025
Remember who you are and what you want.
Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 2:15 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2025
After my divorce in the 1980's, my XH handed me his gold band and I put it with my plain gold band in a little wooden box inside my jewelry box, and they've been there, ever since. Weren't worth much when we bought them, the marriage wasn't worth any more agonizing over, and so they just became artifacts of a chapter in my history.
When my current WH was discovered to have cheated, I had a beautiful diamond engagement ring and a diamond and gold wedding band that came off my finger the same day. Put them in the little box the diamond engagement ring had come in, and now they are stored in my safe deposit box at the local bank. Don't see myself ever wanting to wear them again, or even look at them.
I don't believe anybody wants a second-hand promise ring. Some may try selling them, but who would want to buy such a ring? After all, it is your personal history.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:35 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2025
Mine are in my jewelry box, too. Sometimes, I think about having the ring melted down and resetting the diamonds. Haven't researched it out, just a thought that passes through every once in awhile.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
gemini12 ( member #78670) posted at 4:59 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2025
I sold my ring for the gold value. It paid for groceries and gas that week.
betsy62 ( member #48022) posted at 9:03 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2025
When the X moved out on D day, he left his wedding ring on the table by the bed.
I put it with my rings.
He never once asked where it was, or what happened to it.
After the D was final, I sold my rings, and his for the gold value.
Sometimes, you must forget what you feel, and remember what you deserve
Webbit ( member #84517) posted at 9:29 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2025
My first marriage ended in divorce - engagement ring sold on FB marketplace and wedding ring sold for its gold value. Used money for holidays.
Still with my second cheating spouse. Rings sit in jewellery box most of the time. Not sure if I want to get rid of them or not. They are so nice 😭
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 11:01 AM on Monday, April 28th, 2025
I know of a couple that had their bands changed into a couple of crosses and made into pendants. These were then given to their teenage kids, with the message that although their mom and dad had divorced, they were conceived in love.
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
