Formerpeopleperson (original poster member #85478) posted at 7:13 PM on Friday, March 13th, 2026
Can't believe I have to go through life "learning
from my mistakes."
Awful system
It’s never too late to live happily ever after
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 9:53 PM on Friday, March 13th, 2026
It's the most tried and tested method humans have ever known.
The important step is to learn from the mistakes while we have tendency to keep persevering into mistakes where we invested a lot (fallacy)
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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 9:54 PM on Friday, March 13th, 2026
I laughed out loud at that one too! 
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 11:06 PM on Friday, March 13th, 2026
Wow, lol.
There are so many layers to that statement!
That said, I think most of us here are casualties of showing too much trust. Blind trust has not served anyone here well at all...
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 4:38 AM on Saturday, March 14th, 2026
Yeah... sometimes I just don't fucking learn from my mistakes and keep on doing the same dumb shit over and over again.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 1:37 PM on Saturday, March 14th, 2026
The joke is going a bit over my head because I can't quite focus it.
However what is the most valuable currency in life?
- Attention (1st place)
- Trust (close 2nd)
Attention is so valuable it might as well be called "money" instead of currency.
Trust is wealth. I would never do the mistake to give away unless is earned and deserved.
[This message edited by BackfromtheStorm at 1:38 PM, Saturday, March 14th]
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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 2:56 PM on Saturday, March 14th, 2026
Well, supportive attention is pretty valuable.
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d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
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Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 12:25 PM on Sunday, March 15th, 2026
The joke is going a bit over my head because I can't quite focus it.
I know that it's literally how people learn and grow, but if you think about it, why can't we have just evolved to know this stuff without having to make the mistakes? We didn't. We can't. Who would choose to go through life making mistake after mistake?
What a terrible system.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
BackfromtheStorm ( member #86900) posted at 5:17 PM on Sunday, March 15th, 2026
Is a bit of topic but I am a strong believer that is the contrast that creates gravity about the things that gives purpose in our life.
When we go through a really rough patch we would want to have never been there. On the other hand when you have all for granted you lose any drive and purpose, it’s its own kind of hell.
But that’s off topic, thanks I got the joke now
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OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 7:45 PM on Monday, March 16th, 2026
I agree.
I would like a refund please.
Muggle ( member #62011) posted at 4:13 AM on Tuesday, March 17th, 2026
Formerpeopleperson (original poster member #85478) posted at 1:13 PM on Friday, March 13th, 2026
Can't believe I have to go through life "learning
from my mistakes."
Awful system
At some point we all ask ourselves are we really "learning" from our mistakes?
Are we allowing these mistakes to continue to happen?
Are we repeating the same mistakes hoping for a different outcome?
I feel like I hit the stupid/hopeless lottery more than once. I played the pick me dance, I gave 20 second chances. I gave and gave, and yet here I am, still waiting for a different outcome to a story that has already played and ended.
I would like to cancel my subscription to "life" and 2026 and prior years all the way back to 1994. I experienced the marriage "free trial" and it was defective. Clearly I didn't read the terms and conditions and I'm not satisfied, so I want a full refund of the last 25+ years.
raik0 ( new member #87001) posted at 5:36 AM on Tuesday, March 17th, 2026
I don't judge, I trusted her blindly. For a long time, she did everything right. I even believed that it wasn't me giving her the benefit of the doubt, but that she was simply trustworthy. She never showed any sign that I should doubt her. What an idiot I was.
