sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 7:46 PM on Saturday, May 7th, 2016
Deadmumwalking - on the ever-appearing topic of EA's vs PA's...
The worst kind of betrayal is the one happening to you.
Simple truths appeal to me.
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 11:32 PM on Friday, May 13th, 2016
For awhile I thought he was not making any changes, but as I look back I see there has been many changes, it was such a struggle and took so long that I could not see them at the time, like watching paint dry, all of a sudden you realize it did dry.
1492 in Recon. This is one of the best descriptions of this process I think I've ever read here.
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
momoftana ( member #17383) posted at 5:57 PM on Thursday, May 19th, 2016
nomoreblueskies over in the D/S forum when answering a thread "How Much Did Your Divorce Cost"
"Now I see it as necessary expenditure. It bought me my very own invisible suit of armour, complete with bitch boots and a Fuck You hat" 
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 7:26 PM on Saturday, May 28th, 2016
Northerngal, I salute you! After WH procrastinated about getting OWs loaned guitar out of the house, Northerngal smashed it. OW sent WH a bill. Northerngal suggested that WH send a bill back asking for hotel costs, etc, and then ended:
Or since she was such a good swallower, she could just swallow that cost too.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 4:58 AM on Sunday, May 29th, 2016
5454Real, responding to Minnesota's self-admitted pity party:
Down for the count? Doubt it my friend.
Listen, it's not about getting knocked down. We all have been. Suffer, grieve, feel the emotions.
Then get back up and tell life it hits like a bitch.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 3:08 AM on Monday, May 30th, 2016
Skan winning the internet for today.
For a true Viking burial, you need to also put that stuff out to sea. I'd suggest scooping some ashes into the toilet, using it, and then flushing.
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 10:58 PM on Wednesday, June 8th, 2016
glitter is the herpes of the crafting world
Lovedyoumore spreading wisdom!
JellyGirl84 ( member #41717) posted at 5:05 AM on Tuesday, June 28th, 2016
"That's because you aren't thinking about the reality of what responding will look like. If you respond, in ANY way, you will just get more of the same. Her text to you wasn't an attempt at a conversation or even a constructive argument, it was BAIT. Does the fish lose if he doesn't take the worm? No - he swims on his merry way and lives his life."
-nekorb, in response to a member who said that crickets to the OW felt like losing
BW, 35
Dday in Nov. '13
Divorced in June '14
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:11 AM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
Caregiver9000 to JM72 in NB, on why he should step away from a teaser.
SI QUOTE THREAD GOLD
From what you have posted, she isn't just crazy.... she's the host of crazy town the game show, and she is interested in you because every time she says "Come On Down!!!!" there you are with ginger ale, arm floaties, and flip flops waiting to see what might be behind door number three.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:12 PM, July 10th (Sunday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
PinkJeepLady ( member #37575) posted at 6:36 AM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
Me: BW Him: FWH
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Reconciled - thought so, but now divorcing
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:13 PM on Monday, July 11th, 2016
CG has a way with da words for sure.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 6:37 AM on Sunday, July 17th, 2016
From Bigger - cautioning Wittold (who's bio states he's from "the deepest pit of Hell") - about his assumption he'd keep his house in the divorce:
Don’t know the law in The Deepest Pit of Hell but in nearly all states, Canada and Europe marital property is joint property. Be careful to corroborate any plan you have for divorce, separation or division of assets with an attorney. I’m guessing they are really easy to find in all corners of Hell…
Levity + sound advice ... Golden!
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 4:10 AM on Saturday, July 23rd, 2016
Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex.
These things are hysterical! So funny when you read them - then it hits you.
I have laughed until I cried. 😢😢😢
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
funnelcakes ( member #45249) posted at 6:10 AM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2016
Adulting is especially hard when someone has been adulterying.
Husburned, in D, with the new unofficial SI motto.
d-day in August of 2014, when I was SAHM 34 weeks pregnant with kid #3
A year of incontinent alcoholic cheater word salad and shitweasely blameshifting during R/S
I got a job and busted a move with three kids to a 1BR apt
D final 4/27/17.
funnelcakes ( member #45249) posted at 6:21 AM on Tuesday, September 6th, 2016
Awww....snap!
ADH met her ex's new caregiver over in NB:
Didn't really get a read on her except that she doesn't seem that amazing on the surface. But who knows---maybe she is? Honestly I HOPE she is because he'd be dating up and lord knows he cannot afford to date down or even laterally.
d-day in August of 2014, when I was SAHM 34 weeks pregnant with kid #3
A year of incontinent alcoholic cheater word salad and shitweasely blameshifting during R/S
I got a job and busted a move with three kids to a 1BR apt
D final 4/27/17.
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 2:16 PM on Wednesday, September 7th, 2016
ButterflyGirl helping one of our members to leave her abusive, manipulative, serial cheater:
Nothing changes if nothing changes. You want changes? Change.
There's a simplicity in that that I just love.
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
MakingMyFuture ( member #43530) posted at 8:07 AM on Wednesday, September 21st, 2016
funnelcakes for the win on the Team RP thread in D/S Forum.
Pass: "Yeah ... I'm not sure I could be so Yoda about the whole thing if he were one of The Princess' playthings from when we were together. You're doing well, Minn."
Funnelcakes: "If you were truly being all Yoda about the whole thing, it'd be more, 'Sucking cock, you fucking are."
When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou
BW: 43 (me) WH: 42 (him)
DD-13, DS-11
DDay 1 = 1/13, DDay2 = 7/14 (False R), D 4/15
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:06 PM on Wednesday, November 2nd, 2016
deleted because I realized too late that it violates F&G guidelines. Sorry. It's a great line. Read thethread.
3yrsout in thread on how sex 'feels' in G
[This message edited by sisoon at 2:08 PM, November 2nd (Wednesday)]
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 11:21 PM on Friday, November 11th, 2016
I would rather slide down a razor blade while giving birth to a full grown elephant, landing in a pool of rubbing alcohol than marry again.
GabyBaby in D/S "Would you ever marry again" thread.
OMG I almost peed myself.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:42 PM on Friday, December 2nd, 2016
In my books any woman that can replace car seats and rewire rear-lights on a truck deserves a parrot, new bra AND getting her hair done.
Bigger to Dragnheart in OT, re whether she deserves a birthday treat or not.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
