I'm apologize for what I said about commissary. Many men in prison do use multiple women for money. I'm glad you weren't one of them.
I didn't say your marriage was fake. I said the image he portrayed was. There's a difference. He lied to you about how long he was locked up,and treated you horribly once released. He wasn't the wonderful man he made you think he was.
You were vague. Assumptions were made. I apologize.
You want to save your marriage. We all want that for you. IF HE IS DOING THE WORK TO BECOME A SAFE PARTNER.
Right now? He's not doing that work. He answers the phone when you call? That's something all spouses should be doing anyway.
You moved,so he's no longer associating with the people he used to. Which is good.
That he gets mad when you need to talk about his infidelity, or ask questions, is a sign that he isn't remorseful.
He needs to be in therapy. He needs to stop getting mad at you. He needs to understand it takes years to successfully reconcile. He needs to give you the entire truth. He needs to work on why he cheated. He needs to reach remorse, and have empathy.
Is he reading any books on how to help heal the damage? On any forums asking for help,and working on himself?
Has he sent NC texts to all of the OW, then blocked them?
If you need more information on what work a WS should be doing at this point,you can ask the question in the General forum.
[This message edited by HellFire at 9:16 PM, Friday, November 4th]