bbee ( member #17840)		posted at 4:43 PM on Monday, July 7th, 2008	
			 
	bump 
 
 
			 			This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
		
	 	 			
				    				woundedby2 ( member #18522)		posted at 5:15 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2008	
			 
	Bumping for the new ones again. 
 
 
 
	Thanks again for this great post, SerJR. 
 
			 			In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend. 
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
		
	 	 			
				    				dead_but_alive ( member #20178)		posted at 12:29 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2008	
			 
	From a somewhat newly BS -- Thanks for this post. 
 
			 			Me - BW
Separated - 11.19.2007 / DIVORCED - 1.13.2010
-- 19 years, 8 months, 24 days of marriage (including 2 years, 1 month, 26 days of separation) legally ended 1.13.2010. I now officially start my new life.		
	 	 			
				    				connection ( member #16927)		posted at 1:21 AM on Friday, July 11th, 2008	
			 
	SerJR, I just saw this... I wish I could have read this almost 2 years ago! 
 
 
	At least there will be others who get to read it when they really, really, need it. 
 
 
	Your work is appreciated! 
 
			 	 			
				    				 SerJR (original poster  member #14993)		posted at 3:35 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2008	
				Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.		
	 	 			
				    				Chin Up! ( member #20057)		posted at 3:21 PM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2008	
			 
	EXCELLENT POST!  Bumping for the newbies.   
 
 
			 			Me - BS(44)
Him - WS (43)
D-Day #1 - June 20, 2008
D-Day #2 - July 02, 2008
Status - Who the hell knows?
*********************************
Grace under pressure is not just a saying - it's my minute-by-minute goal.		
	 	 			
				    				bbee ( member #17840)		posted at 8:17 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2008	
			 
	bump 
 
 
			 			This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
		
	 	 			
				    				hurtingstudent ( member #17432)		posted at 4:01 PM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2008	
			 
	bumping to the top other's need it 
 
			 			If epilepsy has touched your life, or for more information visit: 
for support & info: www.epilepsy.com
for info & research: www.epilepsyfoundation.com
to track seizures: www.trackseizures.com		
	 	 			
				    				Phill ( member #19490)		posted at 11:54 PM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2008	
			 
	Bump. (Especially for "fool me once". 
 
 
	
  
 
[This message edited by Phill at 5:55 PM, July 16th (Wednesday)] 
 
			 	 			
				    				 SerJR (original poster  member #14993)		posted at 11:42 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2008	
				Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.		
	 	 			
				    				bbee ( member #17840)		posted at 6:23 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2008	
			 
	bump 
 
 
			 			This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
		
	 	 			
				    				bbee ( member #17840)		posted at 2:19 AM on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2008	
			 
	bump 
 
 
			 			This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
		
	 	 			
				    				bbee ( member #17840)		posted at 7:02 AM on Friday, July 25th, 2008	
			 
	bump 
 
 
			 			This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
		
	 	 			
				    				DivaCC ( member #20382)		posted at 2:46 PM on Friday, July 25th, 2008	
			 
	Wonderful and much needed! Thank you 
 
			 			Me-  BS-35
Him- WH-38  EA Co-worker 2 months
Married 7 1/2 years 
1 daughter-7 
DDay-06/24/08 DDAY2- 08/03/08
The world's a rollercoaster 
And I am not strapped in 
Maybe I should hold with care 
But my hands are bu		
	 	 			
				    				Wanda23 ( member #12919)		posted at 1:52 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2008	
			 
	Bumping because it is so important. 
 
			 			Can you tell by the way that I am no longer hunched over that I'm divorced?????		
	 	 			
				    				Flippa ( new member #20414)		posted at 3:53 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2008	
			 
	Great info, I'm 3 days out from D-day and still a computer crazed maniac gathering all the online support and information I can get.  Thanks for your words. 
 
			 			Me - BS: 34 
Him - WS: 37 
D-Day: 7/24/08 
OEA's began: Sept '08 
No PA that he's admitted to 
Married almost 5 years 
2 kids (2,4) 
Currently Separated
		
	 	 			
				    				 SerJR (original poster  member #14993)		posted at 7:52 PM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2008	
				Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.		
	 	 			
				    				bbee ( member #17840)		posted at 5:35 PM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2008	
			 
	bump  
 
 
			 			This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
		
	 	 			
				    				 SerJR (original poster  member #14993)		posted at 4:44 PM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2008	
			 
	Are we playing volleyball bbee? 
 
 
	bump 
 
 
			 			Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.		
	 	 			
				    				sparrowjack ( member #20264)		posted at 6:40 PM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2008	
			 
	This is exactly the post I needed to read. I think I am in a 'fog' of my own. I want so badly to believe her, but she is following the script of others to a 'T'. I want to believe that she is done with him and that she wants the marriage to work, but some of her actions just aren't reflecting that. 
 
			 			Me: 36
Her: 36
Married: 10 years
Kids: twin boys (8) 1 girl (3)
Found out: 1/1/08
d-day: 7/15/08
moved out: 11/15/08
Filed for D: 12/19/08
She still has contact with him as of today
Life can never give security, it can only promise opportunity.