YouCanHaveThePettyLiar (original poster new member #87450) posted at 8:46 AM on Saturday, June 20th, 2026
Just to vent!!!!!
Why on earth cheating is no longer a conduct problem in divorce?????!!!!!
How is it fair that my kids' and my lives have been foreverly altered by the habitual liar and cheat?????
Then there is the fuckwit co-parenting!!!!!
So the OW or OM, not only break our families, but also get to involved with our kids?????!!!!!
May their fuck worth it all!!!!!
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:23 AM on Saturday, June 20th, 2026
When the states adopted "no fault divorce" in the 80s or 90s, the betrayed spouses were dealt a huge blow.
And I agree with the position that the OW/OM now get to interact with our kids. Not a Dr Phil fan but he used to use statistics about step parents or non-biological parents living with kids and the high rate of sexual abuse.
I feel for parents forced into these situations.
I know if we D my H would have introduced my kids to the OW immediately. 馃槨馃槨. I could write a novel about her but suffice to say she was very interested in becoming the step mom. 
No matter how you look at it, the betrayed gets shafted on so many levels.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
YouCanHaveThePettyLiar (original poster new member #87450) posted at 1:55 PM on Saturday, June 20th, 2026
This is so inherently unfair!!!!! And leave a bad example for the future generations as well.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:25 PM on Saturday, June 20th, 2026
You鈥檝e been heard. There is nothing fair about infidelity (or life, really).
Focus on your healing and future. Your lives are altered but they may end up SO MUCH BETTER.
Sending support. This stuff sucks.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
