Blended families years in.
Hey all, it has been a long time since I have posted. Reading my profile and I originally joined in 2006 I was like Whoa!
My situation now is very decent, I live in Western Canada with a guy I have been with now for 13 years - he is 21 years younger than me but our relationship has been the best of my adult lift. Both my adult female children have moved West and my youngest daughter is expecting her first child next month - (my kids both love my partner and he is fantastic with them). I am over the moon excited about being a grandparent as is my partner. We were recently at a family gathering for his family and he mentioned to his Dad that we are really looking forward to being grandparents. His father did not take this well at all stating that he can't be a grandfather as he has never been a parent. Now I am not sure how we approach this going forward. We had full intentions of being referred to by this child as Grammy and Grampy. What do people do if they are the "step" grandparent? Everybody that I know personally who has a "step" grandchild feels that the child is their grandchild. I realize it is probably the age thing that has his father reacting in this manner but seriously we have been together for 13 years, are building our second house together and own 2 companies together. My partner walked the daughter who is having the baby down the isle for her wedding. We call each other family members would this not extend to our grandchild?
11 comments posted: Thursday, September 8th, 2022