me - BS - Him - cheater/compulsive liar and no longer in my headspace and not a concern

Dec 28, 2012 Divorced

The future - mine to do what I wish!

Update of a sorts

So I saw him about a week ago, hadn't seen each other since his comment. This time he tells me I am so strong and he thought what he said wouldn't affect me like it did. What?? He msg'd a bit after that but now nothing... even the msg's felt like he was just talking to a friend.

I'm not initiating any contact but hate feeling like my life is back in limbo.

I want so badly to msg and thank him for treating me just like my exh (which he knew about as we'd talked about our marriages early on).

I am realizing that there really isn't anything acceptable in how he has treated me that I could consider staying with him no matter what he were to say. I would prefer to have that conversation in person but hey we're in another lockdown. Technically we could meet since he lives alone but I don't see him agreeing to that. Its like he's turned out to be just like my exh... avoid being the bad guy and taking the coward's way out.

Should I msg him or send him a letter?

I'm done with this kind of treatment and childishness (he's 60 by the way).

4 comments posted: Thursday, April 8th, 2021

SO feels we have no future

Today my SO of almost 3yrs dropped the bomb on me that he feels we have no future...part of his reasoning is I own my house and he rents an apt. I had thought he was going to move in next yr after my youngest moves out. He said oh your boys wouldn't tolerate that... I said they don't understand why we aren't already living together.

He said that this has been on his mind since before Christmas!! Basically since then he'd been a bit distant but I put it down to his work and some sibling health concerns... boy was I wrong.

He said he wants time to work out in his head so my question is how much time would be reasonable or is this just some weird way of him forcing my hand to end things?

I am so confused and in shock right now.

17 comments posted: Sunday, March 21st, 2021