Just got blindsided.

I joined when I found out my wife cheated back in 2015 . She did the heavy lifting and we healed eventually. We’ve had some issues along the way . Her clutter turned into hoarding . We tried to come to a compromise, but I was always accused of trying to control her and it was dropped. Her drinking was starting to get out of control. She would go to bed pretty soused. Again I was controlling . She was constantly on her phone on Facebook , etc. Two weeks ago I couldn’t get hold of her on the phone. Came home and wanted to look at her settings( we’ve shared our pins since 2015. Well it was changed. She said it was because she got her FB account hacked . I know that’s bs. Took the phone to Verizon. In the parking lot I figured out she blocked me. She said it must have been by accident. As I was out I saw she was having a conversation with a male classmate who was having i bad time with his marriage. She was lending her um.. support. We had an intense discussion about it. She accused me of overreacting.

Fast forward to last week. I had skin cancer surgery on my nose and had stitches and a dressing over my nose. Two days later , she picked up a friend and came back to the house. She handed me a note and wanted me to read while she was gone. I read the first paragraph that said she was leaving and moving back to Wisconsin closer to her kids. They would be there the following day (we live in Ohio). I asked her if we could discuss this. She said no. So here I am realizing reconciling before to this woman was a mistake . We were married for 13 years . I honestly didn’t see this coming. I feel she has someone already she met on Facebook in her home town , but frankly I don’t care.

Signed gutted.

25 comments posted: Wednesday, October 25th, 2023