BS: me WS: her 2 DDs Trying to figure out my next move. Probably some alcohol.

Back - Trust Questions

It's been a long couple or few years since I was here last. I've been with the same woman for going on three years in February and we have a 1 year old together. He's great and my other two are great.

Living together, starting a shared family, and generally being in a long term relationship has had it's ups and downs.

I'm dealing with triggers, and I freaking hate it. I'm just going to be completely vulnerable here and say that I instantly think about infidelity. Working late, working weekends, etc. The first thing I think of when she tells me this, is that there may be a chance she's cheating.

After the initial knee jerk reaction, I calm down a little and rationalize that it's probably not the case, and that I have been through that before. I survived and I would survive again, but I feel frustrated that I have that as an initial reaction.

New partner, never cheated on me to my knowledge. Never cheated with anyone to my knowledge, but the ex-WW used work to cheat on me. Said work dinner and work trips were necessary for her job, all the while she was cheating while leaving me home with the kids.

I'm 6 years out. I was hoping these thoughts would be in the past, but they're not. For those that are much longer out from DDay and moving on with another partner, do these feelings/thoughts/reactions ever totally go away? This is new for me since the gf's job changed recently and now she has more work away from the office at strange times. One coming up is this Friday evening. Strange time to do work but I have no proof and no way to even look.

Financially, I'm the best I've ever been. I just have this terrible feeling I won't ever trust anyone ever again.

19 comments posted: Monday, November 29th, 2021