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Toughlove1

Wh 39
Mwa 38
1 year e/p affair mostly long distance.
Dday Jan 2019 by receiving a picture not meant for my eyes.
Attempting R since.

My friend wants to cheat (moved to General)

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0 comment posted: Sunday, March 19th, 2023

What triggers wh!

It's been a while since posting here. We've been in very serious MC, working very hard at communicating.
So we've been chatting about the a recently. Sometimes it comes up. That is life. Especially if I have triggers Such as not answering the phone to hear he's in a massage. I ask" what massage" he says the corporate environment one.
He comes home and says he was in an awful mood because of my question.
We had a little argument and I said I feel triggered, and I ask- to feel safe. He responded by saying these questions "aren't good for us"
He just wants us to be happy and get the cancer out already.
No more verifications or questions or discussion regarding affair. Because it makes him feel awful and then it ruins the day and brings our relationship a step back.
While writing these lines it feels so absurd.
Like he doesn't get it.
Please help me find the words to explain how this R works.
He IS trying to do the work. He really is.

35 comments posted: Tuesday, October 25th, 2022

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