Sticker shock from attorneys 1st statement

I knew it was going to be expensive, but I'm just sick over it.

I got my first statement and I saw a 27.00 charge because they called me to reschedule an appointment that they canceled. I drove all the way there for that appointment, was about to get out of my car when they canceled because of a client emergency. I couldn't reschedule that very moment because I didn't have my planner, so they called later to reschedule and I got charged for it!

They tried to call my soon to be x husband 2 times. He didn't answer. Each attempt was 27.00!. I sent an email to give them an unnecessary address and I got charged!

I'm afraid to ask anything now. If I ask about any of those charges, I'll be charged for asking.

If we continue at this rate, they'll blow through my already expensive retainer.

I'm at my maximum stress level already. I'm literally nauseous. It's not just from this, it's everything that keeps happening. It feels like a pile on.

I can't see my way to the other side. I know I'm in the thick of it right now and it'll get better, but it's so hard.

4 comments posted: Sunday, July 9th, 2023

Thoughts on going back to maiden name?

I finally made the decision, and the paperwork is beginning. On one of the forms I saw a question about a name change. I'd love to open up a conversation about going back to my maiden name. Do it? or Don't do it? It's a personal choice, but I'd like to hear other's experiences and thoughts about it.

15 comments posted: Monday, June 12th, 2023

Phone bill question: please help

I noticed a number showing on my husbands phone log. Every time it shows up, it only logs a one minute phone call. I also noticed that it only shows up at the time he dials a certain number (our house phone). The call times are identical.

I used intellius to see if I could trace the number and it said owner not found.

I tried to call the number and it didn't ring like it would if you were calling a regular number.

What could this be? I'm so distrusting of him. Burner phone? Prepaid? A weird coincidence?

It has shown up on his bill 9 times since September 20. One day had 4 different times.

Anybody have ideas of what this is?

5 comments posted: Friday, November 4th, 2022

Cracking incognito mode history

I REALLY want to see if he's using incognito mode on his android phone. For the most part what I have read is that incognito searches are impossible to recover because the information isn't saved. BUT I keep seeing these little nuggets of hope that promise that it can be done. clevguard is one that says it's possible. If it can be done, I imagine we'd all be incredibly enlightened about the minds of our unfaithful spouses.

Does anyone have deep incognito mode knowledge they'd like to share?

Also wondering about apps like spyic or hoverwatch that are installed stealthily on the target phone to keep track of key logs, txt messages, phone calls, etc. Do these types of key loggers track what gets typed into incognito searches?

Hoping to hear from someone more knowledgeable than me.

0 comment posted: Thursday, February 24th, 2022

Separation

I finally decided that I need a break from my husband. He isn't making healing the focus of our lives, he's trying to stick his head in the sand and hope for the best. He's not doing anything unfaithful, but I just don't get the feeling that he is truly remorseful. He has lied to me about this for too long. More lies were uncovered the other day after he swore that I knew everything. He knows that I can't trust him if he lies to me and yet he still does it. His response to his lies are the "cliche" I was trying to protect you and didn't want to hurt you anymore.

Anyway, I just can't heal at the rate we're going. I needed some space to see what life is like without him. So far its been ok. I'm not pining away for him and its nice to get through a day without getting angry when I see him. Just the sight of him can be a trigger for me.

I'm not sure how to do the separation thing. He is texting all the time and has stopped in for a few quickies. I don't even know what were doing. Quickies should not be happening, I know. Is it best to cut all contact during a separation? What about life 360? Cut that out too? And how long is too long or too short? I know its not an exact science, but I'm sure some on here know better than I do.

Any advice from those who have done it before?

6 comments posted: Wednesday, February 23rd, 2022