Should I Tell Her?

Hi,

I am in a real predicament. I have a girlfriend and we have been together over a decade and, until the other day, I have been loyal and honest. I love her and I love our son and I genuinely want to be with her.

Now here's the problem. My best friend is a girl and we have been friends since young children, we are now in our early 30s. We have a complicated relationship as we were together during teenage years, but then split and remained very close friends. She is friends with my girlfriend and the godmother of my son. She is very attractive and I have always deep down really fancied her but managed to keep it back. It is also clear that she is attracted to me.

The other night I ended up staying at her house, which my partner new about, it is fairly normal as I travel with work and stay with her when I am in the area.

We both fell asleep watching TV on the couch and at some point during the night we must of started cuddling. Anyway, it felt amazing at the time and became quite intimate. We didn't kiss or have sex, but we got very close. At one point I said... this is dangerous and she said, we should stop before we end up doing something we regret.

So we did. We stopped. I messaged her later and apologised and thanked her for being strong. She replied saying it wasn't an easy feat stopping, but she was glad we did.

Anyway. Now what should I do? I can't just cease contact with her, I love her and she is one of the most important people in my life. Now, if I tell my girlfriend, I risk losing her and seriously damaging my sons life.

With so much at stake, is it possible I can live with the guilt and keep it a secret? I am commited to my girlfriend, I love her. It will never happen again and if anything, I feel the love for my partner is now stronger in some strange way.

Or do I need to face the music and be honest? Even with the impact of the truth having such devasting impact on the people I love the most.

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6 comments posted: Friday, November 11th, 2022