Tormenting myself
Hi, survivors. I have a quick question that probably doesn't have a quick answer, but I am desperate for support and advice. What do you do to stop or prevent mental movies of your partner with someone else? It seems that every TV show, song, news article, etc. sets me off and I make myself sick envisioning him with her. I think about every step of the process, from the rush of meeting her to how much he thought of her after leaving her place. I focus on details that I don't even know are true. He has been very honest when I stupidly and repeatedly asked him for descriptions, so now I can't unsee things that I never actually saw. I don't even know if I'm making sense right now. My heart and my stomach are hurting.
Yes, we have decided to reconcile and everything can be going great, and then one stupid little thing like a road sign (!) can set me off and the day is ruined. Please share any positive reconciliation stories you may have and/or some advice on how to get these images out of my head. I hate being like this. Any help would be extremely appreciated. Thanks so much.
10 comments posted: Tuesday, August 13th, 2024
