Fiance had an affair after telling she was checked out.
Betrayer is using the separation to pursue AP
I made a post on just finding out. Its been a bout a week or so since then & she is basically trying to get the kids schedule to match up with th guys schedule so that she can see him more..... hurts but im honestly working on myself in al aspects but still hold on to hope that the new version of ourselves eventually meet at some point again. Would you guys question the partner and if shes using the separation to truly work on herself or would you just accept her behavior as her telling you its completely over ?
4 comments posted: Wednesday, February 25th, 2026
Found out she planned for a hotel and everything right after a big argument.
Long story short 3 weeks ago i kicked her out of the house after seeing all the texts and catching her in a lie. She told me she was going to work but she secretly went to a bar and hotel with the AP. She made it apparent that she was checked out and wanted time to what she wanted and rebuild herself while making it clear we're not together anymore.
Fast forward to this last Saturday valentines she came over we had sex and all sunday she kept telling me it was amazing how she loved it and so on.
Well monday comes around and she told me she had to work so i stayed with the kids only to have an emergency where i needed to have her watch them.... i called her multiple times no answer. I went to the AP house and there she was. I made a scene and everything. Told her how could she make me believe that we were going to rebuild or try to rebuild and here she is telling me she had just finished sleeping with the guy.
So that destroyed me allover again and yesterday she told me if she were to come home she would be cheating herself because it isn't truly what she wants "at this moment"
Im heartbroken because i dont want to share my fiance and despite the betrayal i want her back.
I guess my question would be would you guys move on and see other people or standy by and causally see other women & pray she realizes after the affair fog what life really is like
13 comments posted: Saturday, February 21st, 2026
