Found His Secret Life, Burners Phone And Escorts
I (60F) am currently destroyed after discovering my husband’s secret life. I found a burner phone he forgot in the car and discovered he’s been looking at excessive porn and contacting escort services.
When I confronted him, he admitted to a text conversation but claimed he got "sucked into a gift card scam" and didn't actually go through with anything because he "knew how he’d feel afterward." I’m not buying it. He’s a cheap bastard, and it looks more like he was just hunting for a "budget" escort under $100 and got caught up in a scammer’s trap instead.
What’s killing me is the gaslighting and the double standard.
When I try to talk to him about how I feel—how he could hurt me like this after complaining about a "disconnect" in our sex life—he shuts down. He says he "doesn't feel well," he’s "too stressed,". tells me it’s "not a good time" and calls me crazy and jealous for tracking his phone when I see him sitting at a Dunkin' Donuts for 40 minutes for no reason.
I could really use some input and advice.
2 comments posted: Thursday, March 12th, 2026
