Have I been a fool for 46 years??

Hi all I have been married for 46 years at first I thought I had the perfect marriage with the perfect wife.
I had an uncomfortable feeling one early on when she came home drunk one night but let it go as we were just married
We had a good marriage had a girl and a boy then my wife hormones went into over drive, she started drinking heavily and going out with a friend at the weekends at that point there was a lot going on between us.
She was violent towards me and stoped having sex with me at the weekends she would dress up in stocking and suspenders and go out dancing with her friend.
My work mates pulling me aside one day telling me what she was up to when she was out basically she was kissing and being fingered.
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I told her she was ill with her hormones and something had to be done she ended up getting a hysterectomy HRT and became my wife again I forgave her as we married In sickness and in health and our marriage became wonderful again.
A couple of months ago I got a phone call from a stranger telling me when we were married at first she had an affair with a work colleague.
I remembered that night when we were married at first when she came back from the office Christmas party and after having sex with me she asked me is that all you have.
I asked her what was she up to at the party she said she kissed someone and felt him so through his trousers.
Now I find out they went for drinks at dinner time kissed and groped each other at the Christmas party when they went in to a cupboard and they masturbated each other then she gave him oral sex.
She said she told him I was away one weekend and ask if she could go to his flat so they could do the deed. On the day they met for a drink kiss and groped each other in the bar she then says that she back out and went home.
We were only married for 6 months I am so very hurt and sad but she thinks because it was 46 years ago and we have a good marriage I should let it go but I can’t get over the fact we were only married 6 months.
Thanks for letting me get this of my chest as I don’t have anyone to talk to.

3 comments posted: Monday, July 13th, 2026

A fool for 46 years??

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