He didnt consider it Cheating !!!!!
Day 5 of finding out my Husband of 33 years was Emotionally and financially cheating .
Some background Ive spent 30 years being a Stay home mom and then the caregiver of elderly parents.We have 2 grown daughters who still live with us.
I knew something was wrong when I was getting vague answers on some financial questions. Was thinking he probably spent it on Porn which I was aware he watched. When I went on his computer I found he had a secret Instagram account. It was all there conversations , money for rent , personal conversation that even included the love word . My world collapsed.
I screen shotted it all ! Sent some to him at work . Removed him from our room and started protecting myself financially.
When he got home he was genuinely shocked how upset I was his response "it wasnt pysical so it wasnt real, those are just words ,i was helping her .
I believe he believes this we have talked more in these 5 days then we have in years . He is willing to do everything I ask and has already begun . No contact ,full transparency , therapy.
Wow really needed to vent there .
5 comments posted: Tuesday, September 15th, 2026
