bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 3:56 AM on Monday, April 9th, 2012
SuperDuperWonderboy ( member #34716) posted at 7:07 PM on Tuesday, April 10th, 2012
My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.
annb ( member #22386) posted at 3:15 PM on Wednesday, April 11th, 2012
bump 
DixieDiamondfly ( member #34830) posted at 4:25 AM on Thursday, April 12th, 2012
Thank you for this post. My Dday was Feb 8th and the day I confronted him (I call it "fan" day for "stuff hits the fan") was Feb 24th. He has apologized and says it is in no way my fault and has said he would do anything I want him to do. He has done the few things that I have asked. When I ask him questions he answers them...but how do I know that he is answering honestly and completely? Honestly, I'm feeling the red flags again...and I've learned to go with my gut.
BS: Me, 56 yrs. young
XWS: Him, 60 yo
KIDS: 33 yo son, 31 yo son, 25 yo daughter...and three wonderful grandsons and a beautiful granddaughter.
Married 34 yrs.
D-Day #1: 2/8/12
D-Day #2: 7/16/2012
D-Day #3: 3/29/2015
Divorced!
Fighting2Survive (original poster member #28410) posted at 2:17 PM on Sunday, April 15th, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
AttemptStrength ( member #27947) posted at 2:38 PM on Friday, April 20th, 2012
BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS
I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.
windows ( member #14054) posted at 1:05 AM on Wednesday, April 25th, 2012
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 1:31 PM on Friday, April 27th, 2012
Fighting2Survive (original poster member #28410) posted at 9:00 PM on Thursday, May 10th, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
annb ( member #22386) posted at 9:35 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2012
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 5:32 PM on Thursday, May 17th, 2012
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Outdoornut1 ( member #35446) posted at 6:36 PM on Thursday, May 17th, 2012
Thanks for the bump! 
Me-BS
Wife-WS
D-day- 1/17/2012
2 Beautiful Girls
Future- unknown
"You are 50% responsible for the problems before the affair..WS is 100% responsible for choosing to cheat." Confused615
Downrightpissed ( new member #35347) posted at 6:44 PM on Thursday, May 17th, 2012
So glad this was bumped..I would of never saw it. Here's a question...my spouse has done everything in the first column aside from actually backing his words with actions. He is transparent, hads had NC, and says he is sorry and it will never happen again..he is mindful of my triggers and answers any and all questions I have...but...he doesn't go above and beyond to show that he still wants me. I get I love you's but honestly that means little anymore. I cannot look at him and say I love him as much as I did before the A. Is this me blocking the R? If he is doing everything else right should I be expecting more remorseful actions??
Me. BS. 40
WH - 41 PA 4 years
DDAY 12/7/11
Married 16 years
3 kids, 15,12 and 9
Currently trying to R
annb ( member #22386) posted at 3:01 AM on Sunday, May 20th, 2012
chloecat1 ( member #35585) posted at 3:07 PM on Sunday, May 20th, 2012
Definitely a rug-sweeper here. POS WH shows no remorse what-so-ever. Unless HE does a drastic 180 on his actions as well, there will be no reconciliation here. I failed miserably at the 180 yesterday when he was in town. He's not around enough to even see me 180 anyway. Doesn't call. Just goes on with his merry life with the OW.
Him:WH-51, Me:BS-47
DD-21 DS-18
Married 27 years, together 30
Divorced May 2013~FINALLY!
1st A: 19 yrs ago, but dday not until 7/12/08
2nd Dday- 10/3/11, separated since then.
3rd DDay- 8/10/12 Admitted to other ONS and PAs.
Suing WH for di
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 2:38 PM on Thursday, May 24th, 2012
Bump!
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 8:55 PM on Wednesday, May 30th, 2012
bump.
Fighting2Survive (original poster member #28410) posted at 9:14 PM on Friday, June 8th, 2012
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 2:28 AM on Thursday, June 14th, 2012
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:05 PM on Tuesday, June 19th, 2012
BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
