sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 10:49 PM on Tuesday, October 17th, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
runsmiley ( member #33572) posted at 7:35 AM on Thursday, October 19th, 2017
I definitely made the mistake of jumping into R too soon and may now be paying the price, although I guess you never know how things would be different. Don't let them convince you they are the person you want them to be. I'm not sure we can work towards R this time.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:34 PM on Sunday, November 19th, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:30 PM on Saturday, December 2nd, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 1:58 AM on Monday, December 11th, 2017
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:41 PM on Sunday, December 17th, 2017
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
brokenviking ( new member #61746) posted at 9:35 AM on Tuesday, December 19th, 2017
Thanks - will go over this with WW but for once it feels like we've actually been doing a lot of things right.
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 12:46 AM on Thursday, January 11th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 10:58 PM on Sunday, January 14th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
PeriodicZen ( member #62223) posted at 3:25 PM on Monday, January 15th, 2018
Great post, and very good guide for recovery.
Thanks.
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Me, BH
WW: EA/PA
DDay January 8th, 2018.
IHS
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:31 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:47 PM on Sunday, February 4th, 2018
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 12:13 AM on Saturday, February 10th, 2018
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:07 PM on Friday, February 16th, 2018
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 2:24 PM on Tuesday, February 20th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:48 PM on Saturday, March 3rd, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 6:41 PM on Monday, March 12th, 2018
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:38 PM on Wednesday, March 21st, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 9:14 PM on Monday, April 2nd, 2018
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:15 PM on Wednesday, April 18th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
