heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 6:58 PM on Friday, June 15th, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:42 PM on Thursday, June 28th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 7:41 PM on Wednesday, July 4th, 2018
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
BrokenSpirit50 ( member #34485) posted at 6:33 AM on Tuesday, July 10th, 2018
Bumping this since I need it bad tonight.
Married 32 years, together for 40
DDay Dec. 17, 2011
No R, D June 21, 2012
Me BS 58
Him WH 59
Now with WBF 3 yrs. DD#2 June 5, 2018
Truth is like surgery, it hurts but heals. A Lie is like a painkiller. It gives instant relief but has si
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 5:37 PM on Saturday, July 14th, 2018
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:52 PM on Tuesday, July 24th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
leesi4321 ( member #65538) posted at 2:42 AM on Thursday, July 26th, 2018
Finally understanding this after a month of reading obsessively (and a finding a great therapist). Feels good!
BS (36,F), Divorced and thriving
D-Day 6/24/18
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:55 PM on Sunday, August 12th, 2018
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Wool94 ( member #53300) posted at 9:23 AM on Tuesday, August 14th, 2018
D-Day #1: April 7, 2016
D-Day #2: May 21, 2016
D-Day #3: June 7, 2016
Me: 1975
Her:WW (amn8r) 1981
Son 2006
Daughter 2009
"God not only loves you, but He actually likes you. "-Stephen Hooks
"My faith is mine now."
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 5:06 PM on Thursday, August 23rd, 2018
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Jw4269 ( new member #64242) posted at 5:13 PM on Thursday, August 23rd, 2018
I was afraid to do the 180 because I felt it would push him away even more but, I NEED to for my own sanity and well if he continues to move further and further away from our family then so be it we can get through this together.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 1:19 AM on Saturday, August 25th, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 6:09 PM on Thursday, September 13th, 2018
bump 
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:01 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Pinkypeach ( member #65880) posted at 10:37 PM on Monday, September 24th, 2018
I am trying it. The 180.
It's not going to be easy but I can try my hardest to stick to this rather than obsess about what ifs
minusone ( member #50175) posted at 7:57 PM on Sunday, November 4th, 2018
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better". Maya Angelou
ktf5496 ( new member #67576) posted at 2:50 AM on Monday, November 5th, 2018
Very helpful....thank you for sharing!!!
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 10:22 PM on Tuesday, November 13th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Carissima ( member #66330) posted at 8:23 AM on Saturday, November 24th, 2018
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 9:12 PM on Friday, December 21st, 2018
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
