Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself by Shahida Arabi. Has anyone read this?
I happened upon this on the Kindle app, I don't really know how except maybe a "suggestion" from an old search? But I read the "sample" part and HOLY COW!! She was in this kind of relationship and has done a lot in relation to NPD: blogs, run online groups like SI, IRL groups, and has degrees in psychology and REALLY gets it.
I only read the intro pages I could in the sample, but intend to get it. The descriptions of instances of abuse at their hands brought back things I hadn't thought of since they happened. She described the differences - and similarities - between NPD, Sociopathy and Psychopathy in that brief view of the book (empathy, mostly).
The real skinny on how to become the nightmare is within the chapters I couldn't get to, but I can't wait to find out what she says about it.
I was abused in every way but physically (except once early on) as described in it, by xpos for several decades and want to be sure I can recognize the traits and actions if I run into another. Doesn't matter if it is in a possible future relationship or just people I meet or already know. I do already recognize it in one relative from what I experienced in xpos. Definitely good information to have whenever. Knowledge is power, and potentially freedom from abuse.
Just wondering if anyone who notices this has read it and has anything to offer from the rest of the book. And thought it might be of interest to others who know narcs or wonder about them.