barcher144
I can completely empathize.
Thanks.
STBXW eventually became uncomfortable with this friend. Her logic was that she believed that the friend was romantically attracted to me. I'm pretty dense, so I have no idea if that is true or not.
This is, essentially, what my STBXW believed. The thing was I made my friend in HS and she was part of a group of us that hung out together. After High School the other members drifted away (one went to Greece, another college, and the final one just cut himself off). Plus she was friends with my male best friend. So it's not like she was only my friend, although I was closest to her out of everyone.
That said, as in your case, it was platonic.
Phoenix1
I, regrettably, let Xhole drive a wedge between me and my BFF that I've known since 3rd grade. After I kicked Xhole out and we divorced, I apologized to BFF (and others) for allowing that to happen. We are now closer than ever.
Never again will I allow someone to come between me and my true friends. Never.
That's good, I'm glad that you could reconnect that friendship.
So, I get it. Glad you could reconnect.
Thank you.
steadychevy
I'm glad you were able to reconnect with your friend from the past. I disagree, however, with all of the posts above.
Is the friendship more important than the marriage? The marriage should be the most important relationship of your life. If a relationship bothers a spouse should you disrespect the spouses feelings and diminish them?
No, a friendship is not more important - I will agree with you there. That said, in my particular case this was just one of several friends that she was uncomfortable with. There were guy friends too - two of which are actually dead now so I can't reconnect.
I think that 'why' the relationship disrespects the spouses feelings should be explored.
I don't believe there should be close opposite sex relationships that are separate from and kept separate from the marriage. Friends should be friends of the marriage.
That was always my intent - my ex DID make friends with two of my friends, just not with all of them. The friend I mentioned in the OP did try to make friends with my ex. She invited us to her wedding, among other things.
That said, I do get what you're saying.