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 Pleaseforgiveme1 (original poster new member #70845) posted at 1:30 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

I am curious what you all think of this...
I am being told to move out and he wants me gone right now. My bags have been packed because he made me do this months ago (a whole different story altogether), so that is not the issue. I have 2 large suitcases, a backpack, and my purse. I have no money or car, and no where to go locally. So my question is...is it ok for him to just kick me out? Shouldn't I have a little time to make travel arrangements? Or am I delusional and he can make me leave whenever he feels like it?
Please help, as any advice would be appreciated. Thank you all 馃槉馃挃

I give myself such very good advice, but I very seldom follow it. -Alice in Wonderland

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 1:52 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

I dont know your story. Are you married? Do you jointly own the home? Are you both listed as the tenants if you rent?

It is very situational. (Regardless he鈥檚 an ass, and this is a super ass move. )

Do you have no one you can call ?

If you are married, you need to talk to a lawyer ASAP..

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

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 Pleaseforgiveme1 (original poster new member #70845) posted at 2:04 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

Sorry I know I didn't give any back story or details. It's just too much to type right this moment. Especially with all this handing over my head. We are divorced but I moved back in to try and reconcile. Obviously has not gone well. I am not on rental agreement as I moved back in with him. I have a couple of friends in town but no one that I really know, I've only been here 2 years. I could and will call my family but they live in Colorado so are unable to help me right this moment, if that makes sense. I feel absolutely alone right now and am disappointed that I didn't plan for something like this a long time ago. (hope for the best, plan for the worst).
I guess I'm gonna have to just walk away, bags in tow and no destination for tonight. It's scary and heartbreaking. Idk where I'm gonna end up and I just pray ill be ok thru the night. Luckily we live in a semi decent part of town. I literally have less than $10 to my name as I have signed over and given him all the money I had and get (part of our agreement with reconciliation). In hindsight, this could've been part of his plan all along but I won't jump to those horrible thoughts just yet.
Thsnks again for any advice, I could use any help that's offered.

I give myself such very good advice, but I very seldom follow it. -Alice in Wonderland

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HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 3:06 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

It is my understanding, that if you have lived there for at least a few months,and you are receiving mail there, he can not just evict you from the home.

If he tries, call the police. They will come over and explain that you have certain rights, and that he must legally evict you.

That will buy some time. Contact family, and see if you can stay with them. Explain your circumstances, and hopefully someone can get you a plane ticket.

But you are what you did
And I'll forget you, but I'll never forgive
The smallest man who ever lived..

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 Pleaseforgiveme1 (original poster new member #70845) posted at 3:45 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

Thank you. I'll keep that in mind.

I give myself such very good advice, but I very seldom follow it. -Alice in Wonderland

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homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 4:25 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

I would (I did) call the local domestic violence center and see if they can help.

Emotional abuse is domestic violence.

If they have room for you, you鈥檒l be able to stay short term. Our center has a lot of funds to help women get home to their families.

Don鈥檛 be afraid to reach out. Tell them you are scared bc of him and bc he鈥檚 making you leave with nothing. Many of the counselors there were in your same situation and once they got on their feet, got jobs with the centers.

Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55

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 Pleaseforgiveme1 (original poster new member #70845) posted at 5:28 AM on Saturday, August 14th, 2021

Thank you and I will definitely call them. I could use all the help I can get right now.
At the moment I'm still at home with my family and I pray to God he lets me stay until tomorrow, at the very least.

I give myself such very good advice, but I very seldom follow it. -Alice in Wonderland

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