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Divorce/Separation :
I am truly free to go now.

Topic is Sleeping.
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 freetogonow (original poster member #57821) posted at 3:05 PM on Friday, February 18th, 2022

Waiting out my divorce to be final, I felt more glorious by the day.

The past few months I’ve felt like a bird that was tethered to an anchor by one thread. That thread is cut as of 11:59pm last night.

I created this ID name at the start of all this when I was in such pain and didn’t want to be free. I wanted him back. I wanted him to change his mind.

But even then I knew he was garbage and has never been faithful. And that I would have stayed and wasted my life, so by his cheating and deciding to leave, he left me no choice—I was free to go even if I didn’t want to.

But now? What a glorious day. How free I am.

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fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 3:10 PM on Friday, February 18th, 2022

Congrats!👍👍👍👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Read my tagline and good luck!😁

Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.

posts: 3944   ·   registered: Nov. 24th, 2017
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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:17 PM on Friday, February 18th, 2022

Congratulations!

I remember the horrific pain & just wanting my life to go back to what it was pre-A. Then, I had time to stop & think about what that really meant. I realized that my XWH was treating me like garbage & had just given me the golden ticket outta living with a covert narc.

Next week is the 1 year anniversary of the D being final. My home is now a place of peace & comfort.

Life on the other side is so much better.

BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21

posts: 3899   ·   registered: Apr. 21st, 2018   ·   location: Washington State
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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 4:08 PM on Friday, February 18th, 2022

You survived!! Congrats.

Think positive. Stay strong. You are on a great path.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 11 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

posts: 14215   ·   registered: May. 19th, 2017
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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:29 PM on Friday, February 18th, 2022

Your next chapter is going to be epic. Congratulations on all you have accomplished and how far you have come.
Well done!!!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

posts: 6211   ·   registered: Sep. 10th, 2016   ·   location: Northern CA
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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 6:55 PM on Friday, February 18th, 2022

Congratulations!!! This is a beautiful day.

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

posts: 5083   ·   registered: Jul. 27th, 2017
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Allidoiswin ( member #44274) posted at 8:58 AM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022

I've really enjoyed reading your posts, you should write some short stories! So happy for you!

Me: 43 WH:47 3 kids "One foot in and one foot back. It don't pay to live like that. So I cut the ties and jumped the tracks, never to return again."

posts: 53   ·   registered: Jul. 28th, 2014   ·   location: Dirty South
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Walkthestorm ( member #72157) posted at 6:59 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022

Congratulations. I am so happy for you to finally be free. grin


P.s. If you are willing to share, I am very curious about how you managed to break your codependancy.

posts: 122   ·   registered: Nov. 26th, 2019
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Stayinghopefull ( member #57957) posted at 9:31 PM on Sunday, February 20th, 2022

Congratulations! I could feel the relief through your post! Enjoy your peace and serenity!!

Joined SI 17 years ago when H had year long affair.
Found 5 new OW in the past 6 months. Heading towards D.
Two wonderful teen kids that don't deserve this.
Me: BS 48 H: WS 50 Together 27 yrs, Married 22 yrs

posts: 112   ·   registered: Mar. 23rd, 2017
id 8717630
Topic is Sleeping.
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