Daddydom,
Can you add some additional details/context?
How do you feel you were dick? What happened? How did you respond? Why did she kick you out?
We have been fighting all week and this weekend we had the kids here from college and she did not come out of her room at all. In our texts last night I was defensive and she had enough and told me to get out.
Why are Sundays and Mondays trigger days? Are they triggers for you or her?
They are her triggers. I used to go to sleep early on Sunday (even cutting short our family game night) because I had to leave very early on Monday to drive to my job out of state. On the way out of town on Monday morning is when I on many occasions stopped at APs house for sex before getting on the road.
When she asked you to leave, what did she say? Did she mention what she expected this morning? How did you leave things with her?
She said get out. I protested and then she said get out and it was not an option. I had previously made a work plan around the house for Monday which we had discussed. She left it as enjoy your night and your Amy (AP) fuck Monday. There was no expectation for this morning. This morning I woke up at 6 and was waiting for her to wake up (to see here on line icon on messenger) to ask if I could come back. That was at about 9:30. After I asked it went down hill and I got defensive and argumentative.
If you didn't know how this morning was going to go, when did you ask? Seems like you waited until after the fact to ask... why? See above. I did not at all assume I was allowed to or supposed to be back at 7.
Was you not being there an additional burden on her? (e.g. Does she go into the office and you stay with your son?)
Yes, she had to wake up and uncover the chicken we have in the garage for the bird we are trying to nurse back to health. I was supposed to be taking down the last of the winter decorations off the house before a big storm rolls in, and also prepping the outside coop for the storm. Me not being there left that to her, which is why I asked to come back to work.