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Just Found Out :
He left…

Topic is Sleeping.
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 Elphaba (original poster new member #40110) posted at 8:43 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022

crying Well, he made his decision.
He left early this morning…left everything behind, all belongings, phone, iPad , even his shoes.
I posted last week about my newest dday. I haven’t been kind (like I was the first 4 times). Instead I called him out every day, because I knew there was lots more than he was disclosing.
Now onto explaining all this to the family…

So Confused, Hurt, Humiliated...
But strong...
DDay #1 06/23/13
DDay #2 08/05/2013
DDay #5 02/08/14
DDay #3 08/12/13
DDay #4 08/13/13
DDay #5 08/17/22
...you get the idea

Married Sept 14 2015
Fully in R

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 9:36 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022

I'm so sorry, but honestly he's a serial cheater who never stopped cheating. You deserve better. Are you in IC? If not, highly suggest you find a good one to figure out why you would tolerate his crap for so long.

Please begin to get your ducks in a row, and don't sugarcoat your situation to your family.

Hugs...

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SCARLETT94 ( member #52566) posted at 9:47 PM on Monday, August 22nd, 2022

I'm sorry

"Don't look back, you're not going that way" Ragnar Lothbrok
Bazinga! TBBT
Sassenach... Jamie Fraser

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:37 AM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2022

Ugh I am sorry. Mine also walked out. Sucks, but you will get through it and things look SOOOO different on the other side.

Time to go into business mode— lawyers, pulling finances, all that. Gather your support system and yep, tell his family.

((Hugs))

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 2:48 AM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2022

I’m sorry.

Hoping the positive side means no new betrayal, no new ddays and finally some healing for you.

(((Elphaba)))

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aliciablane3 ( new member #80627) posted at 7:49 AM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2022

No soliciting

[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:36 AM, Tuesday, August 23rd]

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MKaaa ( new member #80551) posted at 2:10 PM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2022

I'm so sorry this happened again.
Try to take care of yourself now.

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ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 3:35 PM on Tuesday, August 23rd, 2022

Gosh, I'm sorry to hear that. Of course, he's coming back to get his things. You'll need to decide, what (if anything) you're going to say when that happens. Sometimes, it's just drama to remind you that they have the upper hand and can walk out on you whenever they want. In those cases, it's a bid to reestablish control. You'd do well to decide in advance what you're going to say. That way he can't surprise you into an emotional response.

((hugs))

BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10

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Fof9303 ( member #70433) posted at 6:38 PM on Wednesday, August 24th, 2022

There really are no words. You are strong because you have been through the worse many times, so you will navigate these muddy waters and you will be okay. One day you will look back on this moment and realize there was a purpose for it.. May you be blessed in the road ahead.

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