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Would you be willing to elaborate? I’m not immediately following where this fits in.

I'm being a smartass in response to the continued mention of the threadjack subject. Sorry. Sometimes the snarky bitch in me needs to stretch her legs.

Another big moment: I have no more questions at this point, she has answered all of them. I’m actually pretty stung at the moment having just gotten back the last of them, there is some stuff that I’m going to have to sit with. But big picture, it feels like a milestone in itself.

I’m actually pretty stung at the moment having just gotten back the last of them, there is some stuff that I’m going to have to sit with.

FWIW, the very last of my wife's TT was the very worst. I am glad I got answers, but man, no self respecting human does some of these things. And thus, the work a WS does to understand why they ditch their own standards for an extended amount of time.

If you have follow up questions to the last reveal or two, ask 'em now. It takes a while to process the truth and put that reality puzzle back together with all of the actual pieces.

Anyway, I had always wanted a full accounting of the time stolen from me. Not to punish, it's only fair to know what my relationship actually was in the moment.

I also believe it is brave for people to tell you their worst choices, especially when they truly understand the pain caused by those worst moments.

This could be the last of the big, new hurts. I'd say that's definitely a milestone.

I also believe it is brave for people to tell you their worst choices, especially when they truly understand the pain caused by those worst moments.

Amen.

[This message edited by SacredSoul33 at 10:13 PM, Friday, December 1st]

It’s been a good week. Like, good as in like if life were normal I would call this a good week, so on the recovering from infidelity scale, it’s pretty much been nirvana. Had a good MC session Monday. He gave the advice to take the week to enjoy the moment, and we have. We’ve authentically enjoyed each other, both as a romantic couple and as partners in domestic life.
We had a particularly special encounter. We have a nice big bathtub and for many years it has been a kind of special place for us to connect. One thing I found out in the aftermath of D-day 2 was she had taken a bath with OM. She had hidden that I think partially so it wouldn’t ruin this special space in my mind. But ruin it it did and we haven’t taken a bath together since this summer. We had talked about wanting to "redeem" that, bring back the specialness of it. Slightly religious angle here, but I had the thought that a key theme in the Bible is that anything that is considered sacred or special on earth, it is anticipated that it will get mucked up and some means of cleansing and restoration is prescribed. I had the idea of her creating a "cleansing ceremony", and she agreed. We mutually agreed to wait till after we were thru with my backlog of questions to do it. So once we got past that, she jumped on this pretty quickly. It was moving and beautiful. She selected some music, Psalms to read, she had written some brief words. After that we had our first bath together and I was totally comfortable, no triggers. Not saying this was magic or anything, but I think my willingness and desire to bring this back combined with her effort and humility in it brought life and healing back to this part of the garden.

That's beautiful, IH.

We’ve authentically enjoyed each other, both as a romantic couple and as partners in domestic life.

Now you’ve gone and done it — you’ve announced the secret formula that has taken my M to new and better levels than ever before.

When people step back and ask how can an M possibly be better after infidelity?

It’s two people being more authentic with each other than ever before (better late than never it seems) and appreciating that neither of us gave up.

Facts are, a healthy R is rare and an extremely difficult all uphill challenge, but when it happened here, I found a level of gratitude for the hard work we did and continue to do, I couldn’t previously imagine.

HI IH,

I know that I'm late to the party, but reading this thread causes me to experience a special Christmas Celebration.
This truly is a feel good thread.

I particularly had a joyful moment myself as I reread your words:

Another big moment: I have no more questions at this point, she has answered all of them.

Seriously cool!!!

Enjoy your Christmas,
FAWH

I know that I'm late to the party, but reading this thread causes me to experience a special Christmas Celebration.

You are truly a beautiful soul that touches my heart every time you post. God bless you, I hope you have had a wonderful Christmas and you have peace and contentment.

The cleansing of the sacred space was a beautiful story. I am so happy to keep reading the progress you and your wife are making.