This is going to be a long-winded answer.
TLDR: stay off OLD and meet people IRL.
Now the wall of text. Sorry...
The world of online dating is very different for men vs women. There is plenty of research out there to illuminate this, and OLD sites makes their data sets available for researchers, so we are in, IMHO, the largest real-time social experiment in h8man history. So your experience might not be like mine.
That being said, there are plenty of podcasts that will tell you what you want to hear, sometimes for a fee.
I tried OLD, on and off, for years, and have come to the conclusion that it just isn't healthy for men or women. Let me explain my rationale. First off, I don't meet the criteria of an ideal OLD match. I'm older, under 6 feet, and I shave my head, though I make respectable money. For these reasons, women are not dislocating their index fingers swiping right on my profile pic.
I've been on 1-2 dozen dates from OLD and mostly they were first dates. I was the one who decided one date was enough. With the exception of one cheater, most women were wonderful people. They were warm, kind, compassionate and looking for a relationship. We just didn't connect.
My issue with OLD is that our primitive amygdalas are not wired for the level of choice that the internet provides. It simply overwhelms us, and we instinctively attempt to reduce our options by swiping left more than right. This differs in men an women, as women tend to swipe left much more often.
Our brains are wired to think in terms of 200-300 things. If I asked you to imagine what 100 sandwiches would look like, you could probably picture it. But 100,000? You'd have no idea other that it sounds like a lot. That's why the media uses units of measurement like an aircraft carrier, football field, or my favorite, the Olympic swimming pool. So if I told you that 100,000 sandwiches would fill an Olympic swimming pool, you would only need to imagine the number 1.
You see, we evolved in the social/communal structure of the clan, tribe, or village, and as general rule, they we usually 200-300ish people. (Funny, how the modern neighborhood or apartment block still fits this model) And, we would choose our partner from the limited pool in that village, or at times, from the nearest village next door. We would most likely choose our partner from a pool of 6-10 possivle people, less if some of those were snapped up. In any event, we were content... hopefully.
Now, add to this FOMO. With an increase in options comes a decrease in actual positive outcomes. If you are faced with a choice of 137 flavours of ice cream, you will dither, fearful of making the wrong choice and possibly missing out on something better. IF you have a choice between, chocolate, strawberry,
or vanilla, you'll choose more easily and probably be content with your decision. There are great studies on this, and no, ill not going to look them up (I have a bacground in design and advertising). There's also a reason costco only sells one type of everything. Remove options and people will be happier.
I think I need to apologize for my post...
I have had two longer relationships, and both have resulted in meet IRL, doing something I love. You see, the "face shopping channel" reduces human beings to a two-dimensional characterure and we are all much more than that. Yet people have reduced human courtship to casting a lead role in a rom-com.
Relationships need to develop organically and naturally over time. For that to happen, we need to interact IRL, something few of us do in our busy modern world.
So my advice is simple. Go out and do shit, lotsa shit. Do something small everyday like take a walk or pop into a Cafe, and do something bigger once a week like hear a band or take drop-in salsa lessons. I would scan my local website for upcoming events, and just go. Trust me, It will be good for your soul, and being the very best version of yourself is damn attractive. And chances are, if you do meet somebody, it will begin as a friendship, which can provide an excellent foundation to a relationship.
On a side note, I am in a relationship now, and we met at dance lessons, where I would go as a single guy. Plus I learned how to dance...