Hi, just wanted to ask the BSes here if they can give me some advices on how to manage or handle when WH would like to hang out with is friends/co-workers (all male).
Since DDay (JULY), WH just started hanging out with his co-workers/friends maybe 2 months ago. He does let me know and asked my permission if it is okay with me & he agreed to turn on his tracker. He sometimes video call me too if I do get triggers while he is out just to reassure me.
However, since last week, I find that there is always a "last minute" get together. First, he said it was a birthday party and that's okay with me since I dropped him off to the venue & nothing to be suspicious about. Second, it was yesterday when he said it was a last minute baskbetball game and I said NO because I made plans already. Take note, he doesn't usually hang out during weekdays due to work but this time he is willing to stay up late eventhough his work starts at 4AM and lastly today, he asked me if he can hang out with the same coworkers/friends because a friend of his did not get the position they promised to him at work and needed to just vent out/rant out.
I just told him today its up to him but he needs to turn on his tracker.
My thing is, when he was having his A, he always used his coworker friends as an alibi so he can go out with the OW & everytime he does this now, I get triggered. He knows that but he does the work to reassure me that nothing is going on.
I know for a fact I cannot stop my WH to be with his friends but how do I handle this in a way to rebuild the trust slowly?
I'm trying not to panic right now and trying not to have some intrusive thoughts.
Any advice is greatly appreciated or even if letting me know that I am not crazy to think this way. 馃様