Topic is Sleeping.
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 1:02 AM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
I am facing a post divorce situation that is stunning in terms of EXWH’s lies and malice.
I am not at liberty to discuss the specifics.
I am asking for any SI "mojo" anyone wants to send my way.
I will be giving a friend (fellow betrayed) information on this site and my user name so they can make an account of their own and post an update about me if I am not able if that is allowed.
May the truth prevail.
Wishing everyone going through infidelity much peace and healing.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
FunHouseMirror ( member #80992) posted at 1:25 AM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
I'm here with you Shehawk. I hope that things quickly turn around for you and you will prevail.
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 3:14 AM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Sending mojo and praying everything turns out alright.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 3:44 AM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:54 AM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Sending Mojo - stay strong!
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 4:42 AM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Thanks for the prayers and mojo.
Much appreciated.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:15 AM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Shehawk strong! We're rooting for you.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
IDeservedBetter ( new member #84474) posted at 1:47 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Oh goodness! I'm sending lots of mojo your way. Be safe.
STBXH is a SA. DDAY 2009, 1/14 I got the "I don't love you anymore" talk, dday 2/2/2024, divorcing.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 2:19 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
MOJO MoJo MOJO
Heading your way.
May the judges see him for what he truly is. May you finally get peace and closure.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 2:41 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Sending you tons of mojo!!!!!!!!
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 3:29 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Sending so much mojo your way! May the truth prevail and EXWH face the consequences of his actions.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 7:06 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Stay strong Shehawk sending mojo your way!
fBS/fWS(me):51 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:53 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(21) DS(18)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/8/24
BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 7:47 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Good lord that must be really bad.
I'm thinking of you and said a prayer for you. May the truth prevail!
BW, 40s
Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried
I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 8:38 PM on Tuesday, March 5th, 2024
Mojo to you and hope the ex’s plans cause more aggravation for him.
Sometimes people just need to walk away and move on. Find someone else to torture — isn’t that the point of divorce and "it’s over"?
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 10 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 2:18 AM on Wednesday, March 6th, 2024
Sending mucho mojo and prayers everything turns out okay!
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Ragn3rK1n ( member #84340) posted at 2:54 AM on Wednesday, March 6th, 2024
Shehawk
Sending mucho prayers and wishes for good luck towards you!!!!
BH (late 40s), fWW (mid 40s), M ~18 years, T ~22 years
DDay was ~15 years ago.
Informally separated for ~2 years and then reconciled and moved on. Have two amazing kiddos now.
ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 6:44 PM on Wednesday, March 6th, 2024
Shehawk, how are you holding up? We're all rooting for a good outcome. Please update us when you can.
Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?
Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 8:47 PM on Wednesday, March 6th, 2024
You have my mojo.
I also have this nifty cannister of green gamma radiation liquid that can transform a shehawk into a she-hulk-hawk, if ya want it.
BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer
Shehawk (original poster member #68741) posted at 3:08 AM on Saturday, March 9th, 2024
Thank you everyone.
I am still too traumatized by what happened to update much.
But the number of people in this group and in my life praying, sending mojo and providing support was what kept me going.
The following may be triggering and describe using the legal system to continue to abuse.
EXWH and his attorney in combination with a lot of lies managed to get a judge to force me to give him something trivial that he wanted that was NOT even in the divorce decree. And got a judge to civilly jail me (which a judge can do in a civil case even if the situation is based on lies it really is who the Judge believes and it’s in the real jail in a real cell with felons) until friends got the thing he wanted confirmed titled to him. That took days.
I am sharing this to encourage betrayeds to take exquisite care of themselves physically, emotionally, spiritually, legally etc.
I have told the truth, played by the rules, sought to do the right thing. He has done serious lying, hiding astronomical assets and employment and continued legal attacks and so much more.
I am with friends safe now and working on healing.
Wishing all the SI community much peace and healing.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:27 AM on Saturday, March 9th, 2024
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Topic is Sleeping.