I thought I was much smarter in my60s and had learned about narcissists from my ex. Hadn’t had a “relationship” in 16 years and finally took the plunge a year ago.. met onine. Similar backgrounds. He lived an hour from,e so we took turns every weekend going to each others homes. As time went on I was seeing red flags that he wanted everything his way, and told him I wanted to start doing ore things than just sit around and watch tv. Even though he said he was semi-retired, the part time work began to become more than a full t8me job. He said he needed money , but all he was doing with the money was spending it on things for himself. Fancy tires for his truck ( at age 68); expensive fishing trips etc. when I asked if we could just plan a weekend to get away, he pacified me but then booked a fishing trip for himself instead.
He always would tell me stories about how he flirted with different young girls when he was working his part-time jobs, looking to get a rise out of me. He also would tell me I was lucky to have him, and that he was a good catch. He had only been marred 10 years, and had dated tons of women while single and got pleasure out of reliving his single days, to show me how he was such a stud..
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He wasn’t changing his work schedule for me, but managed to shorten his work hours for hunting, fishing, etc. I to.d hi I wasn’t happy and I was done in December. He promised me everything would change so I went along with it.. I called it quits again 3 weeks ago.. he said he wasn’t going to change. He stormed out of my house and went home. Next day I texted I wanted to meet and get my stuff left at his house.. he replied he would, but when he had time..
Now 3 weeks later he doesn’t respond to my texts. I’m hurt that he never would compromise for me, yet he always said how much he loved me and wanted a future together. and I want my things. We’re not little kids - how can he act this way? I’m wondering if he had another person waiting in the wings if I kept giving him a hard time about working so much. So why do I miss this narcissist so much?
I’m reliving my marriage from 20 years ago.
M=13 yrs.(both 2nd M) ME:BS HIM:WH1st A:summer 01. EA & PA 2nd A (3/03): same person,EA,PA3rd A: 12/23/06 NEW OW. EA & PA(in contact with her for the past 2 yrs)*4/15/07-we are NOT trying to R. Only I was.He was just being an asshole.