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Update over the past few days. My new role reserving specific for big topics is working well. It's reducing tension, anxiety and stress. I've been able to focus on the other obviously things happy about that

I showed him the 80/20 rule of infidelity. I've asked him to look into it more. Finding out such theories or information is soooo helpful for me.

Don't misunderstand me. I am an extremely capable independent person who can take care of everything without a partner. All of those details are very clear should we seperate.

I only focus on the cheating because that's the issue I need to discuss for clarification and feedback.

We did have a big Barney two nights ago and that's been a huge setback. I bloody hate this process and I'm going to put a deadline on a resolution or maybe a particular stage in reconciliation.

My children keep me grounded and very busy. Me eldest son 33 has been my objective non judgemental go to person. I appreciate all of the people I have and I'm more than confident that I will overcome this personally.

I'm thinking of starting netball. It's just such a head f_$k having this crap on my brain.

We were supposed to get married in three days so there's another added element to this!

At the end of the day I'm super proud of how I'm managing this, that feels good. Our close family and friends are impressed as well.

I'm just trying to find some balance and set realistic expectations.

We're actually going on holiday for four nights in Cairns, QLD, AU

I'll be visiting family and they'll have something to say I'm pretty sure.

Thanks for your contributions I'm grateful for your input.

Thanks for your input. It's a chaotic time. Balancing the kids needs, my feelings and reconciliation is tiring. But I won't change what I'm doing. I feel I'm intellectually and methodically working through this.
It's consuming but not obsessive. I can't help but analyse everything. It's what makes me compassionate towards everyone's predicament.
Yes I'll live a fulfilled life should we separate. I do have interests outside the home. I won't waste a minute not confining to enjoy what and who I have in my life. They're priority. Particularly Bernays they've shown me the respect I didn't get from my partner! Rewarding good behaviour is important.
We're going away for four days tomorrow so I'm excited about that. I'll do my best not to address the affair and hopefully something rekindles the spark and romance. Laying down a solid foundation to build from would be nice. We were supposed to get married in two days. Obviously I called that off. I just want to de stress, pamper myself and indulge. I've never been away for that long or without one of my children so this is new and I won't waste time consuming onto something I can't change. I just need a test from thinking about it altogether. I hope I can achieve that to a satisfactory degree.
I deserve it

Good luck then.

Just don’t forget

You first, him second. Protect your feelings and boundaries above all else