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What's the word on him looking for a new job? It sounded like that was kind of in the cards anyway? That would eliminate any anxiety over HR or work problems. Seems like a no brainer at this point.

As far as her threatening self harm goes, that seems like sheer manipulation to me, and also, too bad. Not your monkeys and not your circus. Not to mention she's supposed to be blocked, right?

I think he needs to be on the hunt for a new job asap.

[This message edited by Pogre at 8:50 PM, Thursday, July 9th]

We're in a bit of a tight financial situation in general and his job is unusually well-paid for what he does - and I make barely anything because I got truly screwed over by redundancy and maternity leave issues. I think this has stopped him from making the snap decision of just leaving. He is on the lookout for new opportunities, though. From how he talks about it, he definitely wants to leave - so I'm waiting to see right now how the next couple of weeks pan out. I think it is indeed a no-brainer.

The self-harm threats do unfortunately seem like manipulation. Her phone number wasn't blocked, though everything else was - I have asked him to block but haven't checked in about it yet as we had full-on weekend. No contact since, thank goodness.

Regarding a blocked number.

You can go into your mobile carrier online account and put a block on any phone number and assign it to every phone number listed on your account.

I did this with the other woman’s phone number to ensure she didn’t do something crazy and tried to contact my children.

I hope this helps you.