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The Book Club :
Daring Greatly

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 hurthumiliated3 (original poster member #56189) posted at 7:08 PM on Tuesday, May 15th, 2018

I am about 25% of the way into this book and I can't seem to click with it like I did The Gifts of Imperfection and especially Rising Strong. I can't decide if it's just not as good, or if I am not feeling very open to the message about vulnerability. Did anyone else like it less than Brene Brown's other books?

Me- BW, mid 30s
Him(Fake Husband)- late 30s, 6 week PA with COW
3 kids, 15 years married
Dday Oct 2016

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gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 9:11 PM on Saturday, June 9th, 2018

I’m having more trouble with this one too.

I’m about 40% in and it is getting better.

Lots of similarity to Rising Strong.

I am finding it more digestible when I focus on general “me” vs betrayed spouse or post infidelity “me”.

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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Bumblebee23 ( member #62414) posted at 5:01 PM on Sunday, June 10th, 2018

This thread has me curious now...

Daring Greatly is the only Brene Brown book I've read ^^; It sounds like the others are possibly better? Which of her others do you think is the best / I should try?

Happily married now but healing many wounds from my past.

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 hurthumiliated3 (original poster member #56189) posted at 6:04 AM on Monday, June 11th, 2018

I am finding it more digestible when I focus on general “me” vs betrayed spouse or post infidelity “me”.

GMC, I will definitely try this when I come back to this book. I decided to take a break from it after all and have read a few others in the mean time. I actually came to the Book Club to post a review of a fantastic one I just read called Option B.

Bumblee, I have read two other books by her, The Gift of Imperfection and Rising Strong. Both hit me really hard, I stopped to journal about what I was writing, really helped shift my perspective in a lot of ways. Rising Strong really helped me take a hard look at what the truth of my life was, vs. the story I was telling myself in the wake of my WH's affair. If you decide to read either one, I'd love to hear what you think of them.

Me- BW, mid 30s
Him(Fake Husband)- late 30s, 6 week PA with COW
3 kids, 15 years married
Dday Oct 2016

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gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 5:20 PM on Friday, June 15th, 2018

Bumblebee23, Rising Strong was my 1st Brene Brown (and probably first non-diet "self help" book for close to 40 years). I REALLY loved it. It's been very helpful in talking with WH ("the story I'm telling myself" alone makes it 100% worthwhile). I bought at copy for my DD (she hasn't read it), but already got her to use the "story I'm telling" strategy. It's been immensely helpful (I wish I'd had that during DD/DS's teen years).

Still having trouble finishing Daring Greatly.

I'm kind of bummed about that, as her site says to start with Daring Greatly. I've probably done more of this via audiobook vs reading, and I HATE the voice of the narrator on this one (I think Brown herself narrates Rising Strong). That may be having an impact. And honestly, I think some of the themes are just harder to digest as a BS in the early stages of recovery.

I bought/borrowed the Gifts of Imperfection (someone on SI recommended) and Braving the Wilderness on my table - they are "on deck" as next books LOL!

M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived

It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies

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