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Congrats Notthevictem! It's book pub day!

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 funnelcakes (original poster member #45249) posted at 2:53 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022

Anyone who's been around these parts in the past, uh, while, has had the distinct pleasure of encountering Notthevictem. Whether he's offering encouragement in JFO, commiserating in General, or in the Menz All-Stars he's been a source of humor and fellowship to many of us.

In the midst of EVERYTHING my dude NTV is publishing his second book today! I am hoping to read it on my Kindle soon! So high-five him if you see him around. He says that it's a great read for folks who are Harry Potter fans, so if that's you get your hot hands on it. PM him for details or hit me up.

So awesome to see one of our own crushing their dreams! Way to go, NTV!

d-day in August of 2014, when I was SAHM 34 weeks pregnant with kid #3
A year of incontinent alcoholic cheater word salad and shitweasely blameshifting during R/S
I got a job and busted a move with three kids to a 1BR apt
D final 4/27/17.

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 8:28 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022

Thanks FC!!

It is a big deal for me. An even bigger deal than that one fart that turned out to not be a fart and I thought I was gonna be slick passing off a silent but deadly in the grocery store aisle. laugh

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:44 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022

Wow!! Congratulations, NTV!!!!

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:22 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022

I can write a good memo, and I wish I could write a book, but I've never been able to get beyond memo length. Congratulations, Ntv!

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 11:26 PM on Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022

Congratulations NTV!!!

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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Questioningall ( member #43959) posted at 4:02 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2022

Congratulations, NTV!

Me-BS 57
Him-WS 57 Sorrowfulmate
Married 30 years, 5 kids
Dday #1 12/12 He made up a ONS
Dday #2. 3/14 EAs, 3 ONS, 2 LTA

Buttercup: We'll never survive.
Westley: Nonsense. You're only saying that because no one ever has.

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ISurvivedSoFar ( member #56915) posted at 12:14 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2022

NTV this is FANTASTIC news! Wish we could somehow know the book so we could read it and pass along of course glowing reviews.

Yeah!!! Congratulations big time.

DDay Nov '16
Me: BS, a.k.a. MommaDom, Him: WS
2 DD's: one adult, one teen,1 DS: adult
Surviving means we promise ourselves we will get to the point where we can receive love and give love again.

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annb ( member #22386) posted at 1:13 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2022

Congratulations! grin

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deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 10:37 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2022

Congratulations NTV!!

Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 10:46 PM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2022

Congratulations NTV!!! What an amazing accomplishment!

Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.

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Darkness Falls ( member #27879) posted at 1:07 AM on Thursday, May 5th, 2022

Congrats NTV!

Married -> I cheated -> We divorced -> We remarried -> Had two kids -> Now we’re miserable again

Staying together for the kids

D-day 2010

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 3:38 AM on Thursday, May 5th, 2022

NTV this is FANTASTIC news! Wish we could somehow know the book so we could read it and pass along of course glowing reviews.

laugh laugh laugh

BH
DDAY Mar 2014
Widowed 2022 - breast cancer

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hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 11:13 AM on Thursday, May 5th, 2022

Congratulations!

me-BS him-WS

" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."

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BrokenheartedUK ( member #43520) posted at 3:49 AM on Friday, May 6th, 2022

So cool!!!! I wish we could leave you 5* reviews!!

Me: BS
He cheated and then lied. Apparently cheaters lie. Huh. 13 months of false R. Divorced! 8/16 3 teenage kids
"The barn's burnt down
Now
I can see the moon"
-Mizuta Masahide

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Adlham ( member #53358) posted at 8:12 AM on Friday, May 6th, 2022

Congratulations, NTV!

What an amazing accomplishment!

You know, it's probably for the best we can't all leave reviews. I can just see one after another referencing fart jokes laugh

Edit because my phone hates me

[This message edited by Adlham at 8:13 AM, Friday, May 6th]

There is NO need to have that “one last conversation” with a toxic individual in your life.” The closure will come when you look deeper inside yourself. It’s not your job to fix someone when they are unwilling to fix themselves.

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ADryHeat ( member #46484) posted at 6:19 AM on Friday, May 13th, 2022

This is so exciting!!!!! How do we get the details???

Congrats NTV!!!

Me: BSMarried 11 years, 2 young kidsDDay 11/3/14, Discovered he was still a fuckwit: 7/10/15 DIVORCED 11/12/2015"Sometimes when you're in a dark place you think you've been buried, but actually you've been planted."

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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 7:15 AM on Friday, May 13th, 2022

Fantastic news!

BS Fwh

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pureheartkit ( member #62345) posted at 5:46 AM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2022

I'm sure it's full of humor. Congrats dude.

Thank you everyone for your wisdom and healing.

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Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 7:27 PM on Tuesday, May 31st, 2022

Omigosh! A NTV book? How can we get to read this awesomeness!?

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

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ZenMumWalking ( Guide #25341) posted at 7:53 PM on Tuesday, May 31st, 2022

WTG NTV!!!!! grin grin grin grin grin grin

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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