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Their is scandal going on with New England head coach and sports reporter.

The A has been going on for many years.

Their respective BS's are getting a TON of judgment for not catching the A sooner.

So sad.

Here is something I copied from Google AI

Insiders reported that Jen Vrabel felt "horrified" by the intense public scrutiny, being judged by people she had never met, and living through the humiliation of the scandal in the public eye.

I always say (about people who judge BS es and victim shame them) "until it happens to them". Perhaps then the people who talk bad about BS es will shut up and grow a conscious and have some empathy for the BS es.

The same media tic circus that glorifies and celebrates betrayal and infidelity in movies, novels, talk shows. They call it "Finding yourself" or "exploring self love" or "breaking from oppression ".

Try to find a non-wayward person among those people, is likely harder than finding a four leaf clover.

Unsurprisingly when they find a scandal concerning a betrayal the scorn is over the BS. People who made validation their entire life won’t criticize what matches their behavior.
If you cheat and lie every single day of your life, you won’t shed a light on how bad someone else is for doing exactly what you’re going to do after editing the piece you’re going to stream.

Easier to blame the victim for your ego.

Now let’s call your wife telling you are going to be late at work, while booking the hotel for you and that 20 something new assistant.

Movies love to glamorize the poor neglected wife of a man who is busting his butt to build a future for them. He leaves early for work he comes home late he has to work weekends at times so she feels lonely and neglected and that's when the tennis instructor or handyman or the starving artist captures her soul. If her husband hadn't been so focused on providing Financial Security for his wife and family she wouldn't have been tempted to cheat on him trying to find the love that she deserves blah blah blah.

wb, I'm not sure I understand the connection to the Vrabel/Russini situation in your comment.

Torso,

BS's are judged because the BS didn't catch the ws's A sooner

A major misconception is the BS'S shortcomings drove the ws to cheat.

In other words,the bs had it coming because the bs can't keep the ws happy and satisfied.

That's what WB is saying

[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 6:06 PM, Friday, June 5th]

I used to care what people said or thought about me.

Post affair, I don’t.

Wish I could have been like that in my younger years, but better late than never.

dorothy, wb was talking about a BH being expected to work long hours to unilaterally provide financial security in the marriage, while the WW is bored and presumably at home or at least working less. I don't understand the connection between that depiction and Dianna Russini and her husband. That doesn't seem to be the situation there, and quite frankly the phrasing of the comment feels like a gender generalization without any basis in the case at hand.

Not to say I deny your overall point though, I agree people wrongly look to the BS to "explain" to themselves what went wrong. I will say, I feel like in your posts about infidelity cases in the news, you seem to be spending time in social media comment sections and get really focused on certain themes. If you are looking to be disappointed and upset with humanity, you will always be able to validate it in a comment section. Also, comment sections are not a generally representative population. Many people say things there only to get a reaction and not because they truly believe it or matter in real life. I also wonder if you are becoming a victim of your algorithm, because I will say what I've seen in the Vrabel situation is overwhelmingly a majority of sympathy for the BS's. Your feelings are valid, but I worry you are maybe getting mired a little bit.

This thread is about BS (victim) blaming.

WB was just trying to paint a somewhat humorous / sarcastic picture of a WS blaming the BS no matter what.

I felt you wanted to create some trouble when you wrote

wb, I'm not sure I understand the connection to the Vrabel/Russini situation in your comment.

I was right.

Here you are going on a limb trying desperately to make this a gender generalization issue when it's really not.

and quite frankly the phrasing of the comment feels like a gender generalization without any basis in the case at hand

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Yes, I can be negative at times.

Infidelity drives so many people to kill others or themselves.

If I come off as negative, that's because I am.

Please forgive me.

[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 3:55 PM, Saturday, June 6th]

You are certainly forgiven for being a human struggling with hard things like infidelity. I hope I have been clear I have no ill will towards you or your feelings.

Yet in the same breath you accuse me of trying to create trouble. What I said to wb was my honest understanding or misunderstanding of their point and how it connects to what you posted. To me, it honestly comes across as a gender generalization. Those are my honest thoughts, and it would have been fair to take them as such at least until wb can explain themselves. I can be wrong, but that doesn't mean I am speaking in bad faith. It hurts to be tarred as such. Wow, that is hurtful. I was really trying to discuss and yes disagree to some extent, but I thought I took care to honor your feelings here. I feel my feeding hand was bitten

you can be negative but it was your choice to speak hatefully to me

[This message edited by torso1500 at 4:38 PM, Saturday, June 6th]

I understand what you mean about the gender generalization comment. I agree that I don't see how the one mentioned can even be applied here. There are other gender generalizations in popular culture about the type of women that are cheated on by their husbands. All the stereotypes are hurtful. I hope that was WB1340's point?

In terms of stereotypes in this situation, I've mostly read nasty comments about professional stereotypes of both parties involved. It's awful. I feel terrible for both betrayed spouses and their young children.