Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 5:00 PM on Thursday, October 8th, 2020
A peom by Mickie500
Faithful (Tears)
My tears are faithful
They never leave me wanting
Whenever I summon them
They come prepared
They fill Up my eyes
And if it is safe, they sprint down my face In a maddening rush
Gather at my chin
then they leap off
and land gently on my blouse
My tears are dependable
They lie in wait
Ready to release me
(If only for a moment)
Sometimes they summon
My gut to engage
if they need the reinforcement of sound
that can only come from the pit of my stomach
My tears are created in my gut and yet they have my back
Sometimes they take center stage and silence everything In my body
They subpoena my nerves, cells, and bones
And like a conductor they hold everything in suspension
Until they decide to move in silence
And they gently cascade from my eyes
so tender, that sometimes
I’m unaware that they have been there for me
That they have been delivering me from a silent pain that needed to be liberated
My tears never run out
They remain
in joy and pain
They don’t question- they sequester
they don’t ponder- they don’t fester
They don’t resent- they present
They don’t fluctuate-they alleviate
They don’t switch up- they show up
every time
They are faithful
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:45 PM on Thursday, November 19th, 2020
From underserving:
The thing is, I know I’d be ok without him. It’s the being ok WITH him that is taking work....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:29 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2020
From HouseOfPlane:
...we all live an arranged marriage. In my case, it was arranged by two hormone-fueled 20-somethings who had no clue about anything.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
AnnieOakley ( member #13332) posted at 5:58 PM on Friday, December 18th, 2020
From Karmafan re: a thread on profound loneliness.
Boom 💥!!
Every day I think of re-joining a dating app, to numb the pain, the hollowness, but then I remember why I am doing this and I push through. Because I want to get to a place of self-love, where a relationship feels like a choice and not a last chance saloon.
Me= BSHim=xWH (did the work & became the man I always thought he was, but it was too late)M=23+,T=27+dday=7/06, 8/09 (pics at a work function), 11/09 VAR, 6/12 Sep'd, 10/14 Divorced."If you are going through hell, keep going."
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 4:15 PM on Monday, March 1st, 2021
From Buffer
Most of all she will expect you to change for her unicorn fart land mind palace.
I've been laughing out loud for a while just trying to visualize what this palace might look like and all the while feeling certain that NTV might have the blue prints.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
grubs ( member #77165) posted at 1:34 AM on Friday, March 19th, 2021
Healthy adults don't solve their problems with other people's genitals.
ChamomileTea
BentandBroken ( member #72519) posted at 5:54 PM on Thursday, March 25th, 2021
From HeHadADoubleLife
I think many of us have come to find out that our spouses who we thought were real, authentic, self-actualized people were not much more than a bunch of maladaptive coping mechanisms stacked on top of each other wearing a trench coat
20+ year relationship; Never officially married
Dday November 2019
4 wonderful grown children
WH multiple APs, currently involved with married COW
Kicked him out on Dday and that was that
LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 1:59 AM on Tuesday, March 30th, 2021
Newlifeisgreat posted 3/29/2021 19:26 PM
Dear God!!!!
There are fewer red flags in China!!!
September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:07 PM on Sunday, April 11th, 2021
From Jorge, and it doesn't matter what thread it comes from, because it fits in multitudes of contexts:
I appreciate the fact that she had a rough childhood but it shouldn't come at the expense of you having a rough adulthood.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
foreverlabeled ( member #52070) posted at 1:16 AM on Sunday, May 9th, 2021
You can bullshit yourself, you can bullshit your OW, and your can bullshit your wife, but you have to wake up pretty early in the morning to bullshit SI.
Thank you Bluerthanblue
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 8:45 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 10:43 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021
From gmc94
Mowing the lawn can become it's own form of therapy... think of the grass as tiny cheater penises you are cutting off!
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:44 PM on Saturday, December 4th, 2021
From MIgander, writing about WSes reaping what they sow:
Eventually she's going to be left with her least favorite person- herself. Really, that's the best revenge....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 4:46 AM on Thursday, December 16th, 2021
From Chaos in a thread about Karma in general. It’s not a direct quote because she added personal comment to OP. It has helped me in so many situations. Again adjusted slightly.
The view from the high road is spectacular
Thanks Chaos!
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 32 years
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 7:08 PM on Tuesday, January 11th, 2022
From thisisfine on a reconciliation thread relating to sex:
If he is going to be selfish all day, he can have himself at night.
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:40 PM on Friday, January 14th, 2022
From RealityBlows in General, under Compartmentalize the A. Great description of Unicorn Fart Land vs. Reality:
That alternate reality they create (The Affair Bubble) conveniently shields them from their conscience and creates a wonderfully romantic, although morally ambiguous, environment complete with soft focus, glamour glow, cinematic slow motion, key lighting, and background music from Des'ree or Pink Mountain Tops set in an illicit, dark, fatalistic, forbidden fruit noir and where your AP looks like Kevin Costner or Diane Lane.And then they come home to us, Le chateau of deferred maintenance, screaming kids, bills on the counter, and meatloaf-again.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:28 AM on Saturday, February 12th, 2022
I'm not sure I'm laughing at this, but plainsong said this, just after watching a TV commercial:
'I don't know how I'm going to live another 20 years with the way they're murdering our language.'
Really, commercials get more illiterate every year....
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 6:04 PM on Monday, February 14th, 2022
From freetogonow in D/S thread, just beautiful:
I was not dumped. It’s that God hid my value and worth from my ex, because my ex was not part of His future plans for me.
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
MIgander ( member #71285) posted at 3:04 PM on Monday, February 21st, 2022
I know it's been said before, but I still love it. Applies to both BS's looking back on divorce and WS's looking back at AP's:
Ya know what, the grass is only greener over the septic tank.
Thanks PBguy!
WW/BW Dday July 2019. BH/WH- multiple EA's. Denial ain't just a river in Egypt.
Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 1:25 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2022
From annb...in the General Forum...about Trickle Truth:
The affair stabbed us in the back, the TT was twisting the knife over and over and over keeping us bleeding and bleeding in pain.
A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.
With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)
I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!
From respect comes great love...sassylee