What's with all of the lol's and laughing Emogies? Your situation is not funny at all. It's sad and your situation is toxic. I especially feel sad for your 4 innocent kid's who are having to be forced into enduring this mess. They also feel the tension in your home, you know. Heck, I even do. Stresses me out how you keep laughing at your situation because it is so inappropriate and not funny at all.
Someday when you look back on this chapter in your life, I think you will realize that it wasn't even remotely funny. In fact it is the opposite of funny. It is very sad. I feel very sad for you and your kid's. And I do get it btw. This is why I am advocating for change for you!
Think about how your constant arguing with your WH is affecting your kid's lives, now and in the future. I can 100% garentee that EVERYONE in that house is somehow being affected over the constant arguing, bickering and obsessive behavior.
You already know your WH stance on the lie detector test. He's already told you on countless occasions that he is NOT going to take the lie detector test to appease you. And what I also am tending to believe is that HE IS NOT GOING TO TAKE THE LIE DECTECTOR TEST.
Give it up because you already know the truth. He is a liar, cheater, abusive asshole of a husband who has no desire for change.
Now for you, take him off that pedestal that you have placed him on and realize he IS NOT the man you had hoped and dreamed of and he never will be. He will never be your princess charming. Ever! There is no going back and there also is no changing him. Because why? Because he is happy with who he is. His only real issue here is that you won't get off his back and quit nagging him about the stupid lie detector test and trying to force him to change. He doesn't want to. So there. Period. End of discussion.
I want today to be "your" new beginning. What are you going to do to change "your" ways?
I have a suggestion, begin backing away from him, just one small step at a time. Start trying to work for change for you! Work to refocus on taking charge of your life and figuring out how you can feel better about you.
Please do this for you and your kid's. Forget about him. His ways are set in stone. His behavior is not changing. He doesn't want to and won't. My deceased WH didn't want to change either. And finally I got an epiphany and started taking control of my life and my actions. Stopped doing so much for my deceased WH when he was still alive. Stopped being so willing to make his coffee, make his lunch for work, sometimes dinner. Stopped washing his clothes as often as I used to do before. Stopped looking at him through the rose colored glasses I had on and started to see him for who he really was. And it wasn't good at all what I began to see.
But it was that truth, exactly what I was wanting to see. And the truth was ugly. You don't need a lie detector test to see his ugly truth either because it is right there in front of you to see. You already know the truth and there is nothing at this point to build on with him, unless HE decides he wants to change. And at this point I really don't see that.
Have you ever heard of the phrase nothing changes if nothing changes? I honestly believe this is where you are at in your life and marriage. Are you willing to change? Take a step in the direction to make your life better for you and your kid's? I would love to see this. Your clock is ticking. Your kid's are getting older day by day.
Your kid's really need you. They need your focused, undivided attention everyday, not just occasionally. They are already growing up way too fast. Try to quit wasting so much of your precious energy on your louse of a WH and refocus it toward you and your kid's. They need you. You gotta start somewhere for change. This is a good place to begin, YOUR new journey for change. Change for you!
How about giving us some other ideas on how you can begin to redirect your energy away from your WH? I would like to know of some other ideas you have come up with to help to make yours and your kid's lives better. It could be anything that puts you on the path to a more positive direction in your life. Give us some ideas on how you can refocus your negative energy into something positive. Your kid's will thank you for this.