homewrecked2011 ( member #34678)		posted at 9:49 PM on Thursday, August 22nd, 2013	
			 
	Thank you for so much information...this helped me 
 
			 			Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55		
	 	 			
				    				homewrecked2011 ( member #34678)		posted at 10:39 PM on Monday, August 26th, 2013	
			 
	bumping this up for the new people here... 
 
			 			Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55		
	 	 			
				    				kernel ( member #27035)		posted at 3:07 AM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013	
				"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
		
	 	 			
				    				jjct ( member #17484)		posted at 7:14 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013	
		 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 12:09 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2013	
		 			
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 6:18 PM on Friday, September 20th, 2013	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			
				    				forlornheart ( member #40726)		posted at 1:56 AM on Saturday, September 21st, 2013	
			 
	This is exactly what I needed to make sure I'm moving forward but also taking the correct steps  
 
 
 
	Thanks! 
 
 
	Deb 
 
			 			Me: 48- BW
Him: 45-WH-chronic cheater, PA and EA
Current Her: Mid to late 30's fatassed, no necked, troglodyte 
D Day: August 23, 2013
Separated: August  23, 2013
		
	 	 			
				    				Camalus ( member #40199)		posted at 6:42 PM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013	
				Me–BS age 61 
Her -- WS age 59 
Married for 34 years 
One child, 30yrs
Her 'A' 1994(?) through 1998
D-Day  7/4/2013  Yes, I didn't find out for almost 15 years... but the pain is just as bad as if she were with him last week. 
		
	 	 			
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 10:04 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			
				    				hard_yards ( member #23549)		posted at 4:18 AM on Thursday, October 3rd, 2013	
				
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right... 
		
	 	 			
				    				HurtButHopeful? ( member #25144)		posted at 6:25 PM on Friday, October 11th, 2013	
				Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley		
	 	 			
				    				Skan ( member #35812)		posted at 6:13 PM on Saturday, October 12th, 2013	
				Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
  		
	 	 			
				    				Skan ( member #35812)		posted at 5:45 PM on Friday, October 18th, 2013	
				Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
  		
	 	 			
				    				Drowninginitall ( member #40968)		posted at 3:47 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013	
			 
	Thank you for this. Marking for future reference. 
 
			 			BW 44
DDay 10/2013, 4/2014, 6/2014
With a whole lot of TT, lies, gas lighting and false R in between. 
3 DC
DIVORCED 5/16
		
	 	 			
				    				purplejacket4 ( member #34262)		posted at 7:47 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013	
				Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish 
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???		
	 	 			
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 12:01 AM on Wednesday, October 23rd, 2013	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			
				    				Skan ( member #35812)		posted at 5:21 PM on Thursday, October 24th, 2013	
				Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
  		
	 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 2:30 AM on Saturday, October 26th, 2013	
		 			
				    				tushnurse ( member #21101)		posted at 2:50 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013	
			 
	bump bump bump do the bump 
 
			 			Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16  at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years.  Old Vet now.		
	 	 			
				    				Lionne ( member #25560)		posted at 8:49 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013	
				Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.