bufffalo ( member #21854)		posted at 5:44 PM on Saturday, May 7th, 2011	
			 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 9:21 PM on Thursday, May 12th, 2011	
				BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.		
	 	 			
				    				Fighting2Survive ( member #28410)		posted at 2:40 AM on Sunday, May 15th, 2011	
				Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces		
	 	 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 9:10 PM on Thursday, May 19th, 2011	
			 
	whyme52  
 
 
			 			BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.		
	 	 			
				    				annb ( member #22386)		posted at 2:00 AM on Sunday, May 22nd, 2011	
		 			
				    				nooneeverthought ( member #20157)		posted at 11:05 PM on Wednesday, May 25th, 2011	
				it doesn't matter where you go in life ,it's who you have the beside you		
	 	 			
				    				Rise_Above ( member #23674)		posted at 6:53 AM on Monday, June 6th, 2011	
				You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch		
	 	 			
				    				sherran ( new member #32233)		posted at 7:28 AM on Monday, June 6th, 2011	
			 
	thank you for your post. It makes things clearer for me, I need the boundaries to keep me strong. 
 
			 			Karma will kick him in the arse
BS 34
WH 35
together: 13 yrs
M 2 1/2 yrs
DDay 19/5/11
A & OW - not sure how long?? no answers given		
	 	 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 2:14 PM on Monday, June 27th, 2011	
				BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.		
	 	 			
				    				belladolcegirl ( member #32489)		posted at 10:17 PM on Monday, June 27th, 2011	
			 
	Thank you for this post. I can see a lot of myself in what you wrote and I will defintely be considering these points as I make my mind up to confront. Thank you for taking the time to share this! 
 
			 	 			
				    				hathnofury ( member #32550)		posted at 10:48 PM on Monday, June 27th, 2011	
			 
	Thank you for this. Very helpful. I need to put mine in writing, so it is clear. 
 
			 			BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits.  Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.		
	 	 			
				    				Rise_Above ( member #23674)		posted at 10:06 PM on Thursday, June 30th, 2011	
				You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch		
	 	 			
				    				isadora ( member #29130)		posted at 6:05 PM on Saturday, July 2nd, 2011	
				Me: BW  Him: who cares
Divorced: 4/2015
2 DDs and 2DSs 
Who knows how many affairs at this point
Multiple D-Days 
I can only control myself, no one else.  I do not have that kind of power.
		
	 	 			
				    				jb3199 ( member #27673)		posted at 7:11 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2011	
				BH-50s
WW-50s
2 boys
Married over 30yrs.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary PuckettD-Day(s): EnoughAccepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14		
	 	 			
				    				bufffalo ( member #21854)		posted at 2:18 AM on Tuesday, July 12th, 2011	
			 			
				    				Fighting2Survive ( member #28410)		posted at 4:30 AM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2011	
				Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces		
	 	 			
				    				Fighting2Survive ( member #28410)		posted at 2:22 AM on Sunday, July 24th, 2011	
				Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces		
	 	 			
				    				bufffalo ( member #21854)		posted at 11:15 PM on Wednesday, July 27th, 2011	
			 			
				    				MrsSprky99 ( member #32895)		posted at 3:24 AM on Thursday, July 28th, 2011	
			 
	lordhasaplan? 
 
 
	Thank you so very much for taking the time to post this information!!!  Helps a newbie like me to get a hold of a seemingly out of control situation :) 
 
			 			BW (me) - 47
WH (him) - 53
Married - 14 years 
3 Children - 25, 24 from first relationship & 10 y/o with WH
D-Day: June 11, 2011 
		
	 	 			
				    				 lordhasaplan? (original poster  member #30079)		posted at 1:48 PM on Friday, August 5th, 2011	
				BS- Me (53)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R. Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.