Topic is Sleeping.
HowIsThisReal (original poster member #50235) posted at 3:25 AM on Monday, November 21st, 2016
FWH's therapist recommended this book, anyone read it?
Me: BS | D-Day 11/3/2015
Took about 5 years of hard work, but we are R'd.
mamazen ( member #42137) posted at 2:33 PM on Tuesday, November 22nd, 2016
I have not read it (because our marriage was too far gone to try to fix it). But I have heard that this technique has worked miracles in relationships. My therapist told me that a couple long sessions with the author saved her own marriage (they actually travelled to the author's city for sessions).
mamazen
me 57
WH 58
married 19 years
separated since 3/2013 (in house until 8/2013)
D FINAL! Sept 10 2014
D-day Dec 21 2013 (after separation)
2 sons 17 and 13
OW = family friend and WH work colleague, going on m
bw900 ( member #47732) posted at 2:11 PM on Wednesday, November 23rd, 2016
Our MC recommended it, too. I listened to half of it but had to return it to the library. I don't remember specifically what it said, but I hated returning it because it was helpful. This was either before dday when I was searching for ways to fix our marriage (I could not pinpoint what was wrong with us!! Of course it was because WH was GONE from the M in the A!), or it was shortly after dday 22 months ago. We just ordered the book and are waiting for it to arrive. MC says it is best read a bit at a time because it is deep and we would benefit if we take time to process it.
Me: BW 68 (59 at dday) WH: 69 (60 at dday)D-day 1/2015 EA/PA 1.25 year w/COW M 31 yrs, 4 grown kids Reconciling, which is not easy! Still Grieving what I thought our M was and who I thought he was
sewardak ( member #50617) posted at 9:57 PM on Wednesday, November 23rd, 2016
is it about attachment and that when we fight it's about our fear of not being attached to someone?
Crushed7 ( member #41129) posted at 5:55 PM on Tuesday, November 29th, 2016
I read it and thought it was excellent. It was great at not only identifying the faulty relationship patterns, but at suggesting how to form a better relationship.
Me-BH
Her-WW
Last DDay-2012 (several month EA/PA)
Married 30+ years
Topic is Sleeping.
