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The Book Club :
Book for healing after an affair

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 Elle2 (original poster member #64338) posted at 5:22 PM on Friday, May 24th, 2019

Looking for something to help me recover from the damage ws has done. I'm 11m post DDay and realize I haven't made much progress in certain areas.

Me: BW. WH had multiple EAs. DDay 1 June 25 2018,-DDay2 4/9/2022. I’d had a hunch for a few weeks. Kicked him out and he found a new friend which was the start of EA3. DDay 4 EA 5/7/2024

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onlytime ( member #45817) posted at 1:01 PM on Tuesday, May 28th, 2019

Could you expand on what areas you are struggling with? It would make it easier to make book recommendations for you.

R'd w/ BetterFuture13
T 20+ yrs w/ adult kids 😇 + grands
"The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall" ~Nelson Mandela

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hurthumiliated3 ( member #56189) posted at 3:22 AM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2019

If you'd like a book specifically about healing after an affair, I'd recommend Living and Loving After Betrayal by Steve Stosny. It delves into some of the brain changes that come from affair trauma and I found it very helpful.

If you are looking for a book about healing you, I recommend Daring Greatly and Rising Strong by Brene Brown. I found Rising Strong especially helpful.

Good luck!

Me- BW, mid 30s
Him(Fake Husband)- late 30s, 6 week PA with COW
3 kids, 15 years married
Dday Oct 2016

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hurthumiliated3 ( member #56189) posted at 3:25 AM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2019

I just thought of another one after I posted- Option B by Sheryl Sandberg. She wrote it after the unexpected loss of her husband, but the way she wrote about the grief she experienced was very relatable for me. She talks a lot about how hard it was to go back to regular living and some of the mindsets that helped her. I really like this one.

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[This message edited by hurthumiliated3 at 9:25 PM, June 1st (Saturday)]

Me- BW, mid 30s
Him(Fake Husband)- late 30s, 6 week PA with COW
3 kids, 15 years married
Dday Oct 2016

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Luna71 ( new member #71101) posted at 7:57 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2019

A book that has helped a lot is “How to make love last” By John Gottman. [Edit: no soliciting]

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