Topic is Sleeping.
MyAndI (original poster member #75422) posted at 2:34 AM on Thursday, December 17th, 2020
My A triggers WW/BW during the Holidays. Though her A was much shorter, my considerably longer A spanned through several Christmases -- and after full surrender of all my emails after DDay, much of the pillow talk between me and OW through email was during the holidays.
I know when W is triggering and I remind her it's OK too talk about anything she wants. I know it helps her but it triggers me about what a shameful ass I was at the time. I don't ask her about her A anymore for the same reason. I don't want to remind her of the shame she felt. I hope I'm making sense.
[This message edited by MyAndI at 8:57 PM, December 16th (Wednesday)]
I failed at R
Survived Infidelity as a BH, WW had a six-month EA/PA, then I had an affair of my own many years later that lasted three-years, never thought I'd ever cheat.
Neanderthal ( member #71141) posted at 2:27 PM on Thursday, December 17th, 2020
It sounds like you're being supportive during a difficult time for her. That's really good. Try not to get stuck in shame for too long.
I know you want to spare your wife the feelings of shame, but is it healthy to not discuss your hurt and triggers?
For me, its Easter. That bunny can jump off a cliff.
Topic is Sleeping.
