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Reconciliation :
Considering emdr. Can you share your experience?

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 Howcthappen (original poster member #80775) posted at 9:52 PM on Thursday, February 2nd, 2023

Please share your experience with EMDR.

Three years since DdayNever gonna be the sameReconcilingThe sting is still present

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sewardak ( member #50617) posted at 11:47 PM on Thursday, February 2nd, 2023

ITs been a while but it helped. I know longer have pain associated with my traumatic event. Took several sessions though.

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 1:14 AM on Friday, February 3rd, 2023

I had a very positive experience.
I think it helped me. I felt that my provider was very skilled.

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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penguin3 ( new member #82677) posted at 6:26 PM on Friday, February 3rd, 2023

EMDR helped resolve some of the feelings I was having but is not a cure-all. My provider was sure to prepare both of us that there may be a lot of anger before any feelings of resolution. It was helpful to both be prepared.

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Ladybugmaam ( member #69881) posted at 3:00 PM on Sunday, February 5th, 2023

It was a big help for me. It did take several sessions for me over time. AND, it isn’t easy. Be kind to yourself. I found that 2-3 days after a session, I would decompensate. I liken it to emotional chemotherapy. To feel better, it sometimes makes you feel worse and dwell in the trauma to process it. But, it was a game changer for me.

And, now….if I get triggered….I can find a multitude of bilateral sounds (use headphones) that will ground me back in the present. It is a great tool. It is a total brain hack.

EA DD 11/2018
PA DD 2/25/19
One teen son
I am a phoenix.

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CaptainRogers ( member #57127) posted at 2:30 AM on Monday, February 6th, 2023

EMDR was a big help to me. Helped to move things from the immediate/trauma center of the brain to the processing department where it belonged. Make sure you have a good therapist doing the treatments. EMDR made it so that I could carry again without the desire to put one in the AP's forehead should we ever meet. I know it worked, because I've run into him 3x totally unexpectedly and didn't have the urge to create a casualty once.

BS: 42 on D-day
WW: 43 on D-day
Together since '89; still working on what tomorrow will bring.
D-Day v1.0: Jan '17; EA
D-day v2.0: Mar '18; no, it was physical

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