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Abcd89 (original poster member #82960) posted at 10:25 AM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
It seems common that people in affairs text from the bathroom. My spouse spent hours on the loo. (Where I live houses often have a tiny room with just a loo and sink - so unless you stand looking at the loo you are sat on it).
Now if I mention the messaging to him I say ‘when she was texting you while she was taking a dump’ because there’s a good chance that was what she was doing. He knows that was what he was doing.
I think it’s really poignant that they text from the loo. Heart emojis and kisses to messages sent from the throne. Words of adoration holding the loo roll. It’s all a bit grim really.
Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 11:53 AM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
There's no troubled marriage that can't be made worse with adultery."For a person with integrity, there is no possibility of being unhappy enough in your marriage to have an affair, but not unhappy enough to ask for divorce."
HellFire ( member #59305) posted at 12:40 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Its often said here.."privacy is for the bathroom, what they want is secrecy."
Then,they use their time in the bathroom to message AP.
His long trips to the bathroom was my first clue that he was at it again.
So now? He doesn't close the door. Ever. He uses the bathroom in our bedroom. It's just us,and our adult daughter at home. She never goes is there. And I don't hover in the doorway, so it's not like he's on display. But, no,the door stays open. This was HIS idea. So..ok. If,every time he wipes his ass he thinks of OW, well, I guess that's appropriate.
I'm sure many will be appalled. I give not one single care.
[This message edited by HellFire at 12:42 PM, Wednesday, January 31st]
But you are what you did
And I'll forget you, but I'll never forgive
The smallest man who ever lived..
Abcd89 (original poster member #82960) posted at 12:43 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Good to see I’m not the only one who has thought this.
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I’ll text you some kibbles,
When I have my next poo.
I don’t think I’ll win a prize for my poetry.
Abcd89 (original poster member #82960) posted at 12:47 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Hellfire - mine leaves the door open too now. I also got suspicious due to lengthy bathroom visits.
As for remembering when wiping his arse - eeek I hadn’t thought of that. I may ask him later! How romantic.
luvedmypbear ( member #25690) posted at 1:15 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Astonishingly I find this comforting (that other people have gone through this).
WH’s bathroom visits were ridiculous. He would spend most of his time in there and went so far as to claim he has irritable bowel syndrome. However, it was rare there was any accompanying smell to support his claim.
luvedmypbear didn’t care what you thought. She knew she was a badass.
Abcd89 (original poster member #82960) posted at 1:29 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Pbear - I am glad to bring you comfort. I was worrying i would lower the tone somewhat and almost didn’t post.
To me it also symbolises what c**p the whole situation actually was.
Receiving kibbles from the loo. Imagine being asked by your Aunty Rose ‘how did you two love birds start your relationship?’ Oh it was her Kibbles from the Dunny - I just couldn’t resist her. I waited with bated breathe and anticipation until her next bowel movement.
When they think back to the early days - I spent hours texting from the throne room - love you princess.
Not impressed that my wonderful kids lives were thrown into disarray by a man who needed to write tales of adoration while risking haemmeroids.
It’s things like this that back up the fact that affairs are really pathetic and not due to being sexy or exciting or due to stars aligning magically.
Texting from the Dunny.
I hope to not have lowered the tone today. Sorry people I’m glad others have considered it too.
[This message edited by Abcd89 at 1:34 PM, Wednesday, January 31st]
SadieMae ( member #42986) posted at 3:21 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Oh yes, WH spent a lot of time taking a dump and texting AP. I also think it's very appropriate that she got shit texts and I find humor in that now.
I even found pics he took of himself in the bathroom. How disgusting?!? Of course, I also called him "CAP'N" for a long time which stood for "Carefully Angled Phone" because phone angles were used to improve certain dimensions.
Me: BW D-day 3/9/2014
TT until 6/2016
TT again Fall 2020
Yay! A new D-Day on 11/8/2023 WTAF
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 3:40 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
I don’t think I’ll win a prize for my poetry.
But it may earn you a post in the SI Quote Thread in F&G forum.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 4:08 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
It makes sense that cheaters would spend so much time in the bathroom because they’re full of shit.
BW, 40s
Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried
I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.
whatisloveanyway ( member #66450) posted at 4:27 PM on Wednesday, January 31st, 2024
Thank you for the laugh this morning :)
My WH did a reversal, just as gross, texting me from bathroom while with AP. As I uncovered A details years downstream, I was able to connect a selfie he sent me from the toilet to a business trip taken with MOW GF, and realized she was there with him in the hotel room. He was checking in regularly and sending me reassuring photos post Discovery, while they went underground. No shame at all, and what a pile of crap in every sense. I threw the shirt he was wearing in that pic in the garbage when I figured it out and told him why. It was one of his favorites. He's lucky it was just the shirt.
BW: 64 WH: 64 Both 57 on Dday, M 37 years, 2 grown kids. WH had 9 year A with MOW, 7 month false R, multiple DDays from 2017 - 2022, with five years of trickle truth and lies. I got rid of her with one email. Reconciling, or trying to.
standinghere ( member #34689) posted at 8:38 AM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I’ll text you some kibbles,
When I have my next poo.
I don’t think I’ll win a prize for my poetry.
I don't know, it seems we may have found the next poet laureate! Perhaps at the next inauguration of a U.S. president you can read it at the ceremony!
FBH - Me - Betrayal in late 30's (now much older)
FWS - Her - Affair in late 30's (now much older )
4 Children
Her - Love of my life...still is.
Reconciled BUT!
Abalone123 ( member #82896) posted at 7:56 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
I spent my entire married life making high fiber food for the WH because he was spending hours in the bathroom . Then realized it was moral constipation!
Blackbird25 ( member #82766) posted at 9:11 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
This thread made my day. I’m laughing my ass off. And I’m at the dentists office right now. And no one has fun at the dentist office!! Yet you guys have me laughing 😂
Me: BS Him: WH, Married 1996 -
DDay#1: 6/1/2012 (EA 3 mos, PA 1 month) - DDay#2: 12/26/22 (EA, 1 wk) -
Reconciling and doing well.
SadieMae ( member #42986) posted at 10:13 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
I had forgotten about this.
During the time of WH's A he was constantly NOT flushing the toilet. OMG, it drove me mad. I kept walking into the bathroom and find a "dirty" toilet. Once we had D-day and I realized what he had been too busy doing instead of flushing... Oh, I lost it. I had never been so disgusted by him.
Me: BW D-day 3/9/2014
TT until 6/2016
TT again Fall 2020
Yay! A new D-Day on 11/8/2023 WTAF
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 10:15 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
I have always said that an AP willingly accepts second place, that is why A's happen in secrecy, the BS will never accept 2nd place. This post further proves the point, the AP gets the shitty end of the deal.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 32 years
hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 10:56 PM on Thursday, February 1st, 2024
This thread has made my day!!! Yes, toilet texting.
After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17
Abcd89 (original poster member #82960) posted at 8:36 AM on Friday, February 2nd, 2024
I am glad I have made people smile!
I am also glad my poem made it into F and G 😂
It’s certainly not romantic and sexy getting kibbles from the loo. I agree it demonstrates what people are prepared to tolerate to get smoke blown up their butt!
Abcd89 (original poster member #82960) posted at 8:39 AM on Friday, February 2nd, 2024
My week has sucked and I am really glad I’ve brightened some of your days Happy Friday! (Posting from my bedroom not the Dunny)
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:59 AM on Sunday, February 4th, 2024
"Then,they use their time in the bathroom to message AP."
I am so sorry so many of us experienced this. And EXWH did a lot more than just text in places he shouldn’t.
I did not question the time he took for himself whether it was bathroom time, walks, so called working in the garage. I respected him like the man with morals and decency I mistakingly thought he was. I gave him more credit than he deserved and quite frankly he flushed our marriage down the toilet.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Topic is Sleeping.