Topic is Sleeping.
MrFlibble (original poster member #76085) posted at 2:38 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Hey,
sorry for radio silence for over a year or so, but I was busy with life and coming back here often felt too heavy of a burden to bear. But I got many private messages (read them all just today, sorry!) about how am I (or we) doing. No idea if i picked the right forum (General), but I hope it’s fine.
To those of you who have reached out - thank you for caring, and once again, sorry for leaving without warning.
We (yes, we) are doing.. well. Some days are better, some worse, but I think we are out of the woods so to speak. There are still some things (on both sides) than are unresolved and the hurt is still there, but we are working on it.
Hope I will fond time to come back later with deeper insight, but for now - doing good, R in full and all that..
See you soon.
Mr. F
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 4:02 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:09 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Thanks, MrF. I don't go into D/S, so I appreciate your choice of G.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
1994 ( member #82615) posted at 4:28 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Good note, thank you. Glad to see the Flibbles are moving forward. hope the kids are doing well also.
RoundandRound68 ( new member #82936) posted at 5:45 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Great to hear from you MrF. The road goes ever on and I'm glad things are good for you.
Does the merry-go-round ever stop
Me : BH 46 at the time.WW 40 at the time.
Sufi22 ( new member #75842) posted at 8:03 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Thanks for the great update Mr F!
BH-60s WW-50s M 25 years
DD 8/3/18
3 yr EA/PA
Mostly reconciled
Unsure2019 ( member #71350) posted at 8:10 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Great to hear Mr. Fibble. I’ve always pulled for you and I’m really heartened to hear that it’s going well. Take care.
M1965 ( member #57009) posted at 8:14 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Many thanks for the update. Like many others here, I am happy for you.
straightup ( member #78778) posted at 9:26 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2024
Smeggin brilliant, as Lister might put it.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
Mother Teresa
paboy ( member #59482) posted at 2:06 AM on Sunday, March 3rd, 2024
Great update Mr Flibble. Best of luck going forward for you and your family.
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 9:39 PM on Sunday, March 3rd, 2024
Hey Fibs! Great to hear from you. I wonder about you often. Hope all is well.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 12:55 AM on Monday, March 4th, 2024
Smeggin brilliant, as Lister might put it.
We should celebrate with piping hot gazpacho soup.
FindingaWayHome ( member #78829) posted at 1:21 AM on Monday, March 4th, 2024
Hi Mr F,
I'll add my voice to the chorus of congratulations.
Thank you for sharing.
It is good news to hear that you continue this journey out of infidelity.
All the best in dealing with those hurts and unresolved issues.
And if you ever want support, encouragement or advice, you know where to find us
Regards,
FAWH
drtyrttnscndrl ( new member #75623) posted at 1:00 PM on Wednesday, March 6th, 2024
Great news again MrFlibble. Wishing you all the best.
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 5:46 PM on Wednesday, March 6th, 2024
Good to hear from you MrF and that things are going relatively well.
Are you happy in the relationship? Still glad you are in it? How has she made changes to make you feel safe. And if you don’t mind sharing, what are the remaining issues you are working on.
That said, I wish you both well in the continued journey.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
MrFlibble (original poster member #76085) posted at 12:01 AM on Wednesday, March 27th, 2024
Thank you all for the well wishes, I am really grateful for all the help you provided in time of my greatest need.
I have gone over my original thread (what a ride, still a painful one) and it’s truly surreal experience reading all that few years down the road. I originally wanted to write a long summary of everything but I had stopped myself, because who wants to read all that, right? So I just want to let you know things are good, with slight overcloud occasionally. Kids are doing great, too. I just wanted to adress few thing that Stevesn mentioned.
1) I am glad I "stayed". It took me a while, but when I got out of that sinkhole full of hurt (I would say about 2 years post dday or so) I realized how strange I often acted out of hurt, pride and strong feeling of injustice that had been done not only to me, but to my children.
That whole story of divorce as a prerequisite for R is a nice example.
Other sensitive topics (few years out of dday) include polygraph (surprisingly, I am
The one who rethinks this, and quite often!) and my dentist friend from right after our D was finalized
I will come back with more, but right now I am writing this on my phone, which is a pain, so forgive me for cuting it short here.
Hope to see you soon,
Mr. F
[This message edited by MrFlibble at 12:03 AM, Wednesday, March 27th]
MrFlibble (original poster member #76085) posted at 12:04 AM on Wednesday, March 27th, 2024
Ps wasn’t sure you would even remember me given how many people like me (us) come here every day for help. Sad and a bit depressing to be honest.
Topic is Sleeping.