I’m sorry, but why is this your deal breaker? His pattern is obvious. Cheats=doesn’t care about you. Can’t hold a job, makes life altering choices without your input.
I’ll be honest, and I know what I’m talking about because I was a recruiter for the military at a point, I doubt he will follow through, and honestly due to his age I’m surprised he actually was allowed to join. So it’s one of two things he’s lying (as a serial cheater will), or he’s joining a reserve component. Google it yourself, 35 is the max age, and its branch (Army, Airforce, Navy, Marine) dependent. No one over 22 is getting into the marines unless they are a pilot or an officer. No one is getting active Air Force or Navy at that age either, and the Army cut off is he has to ship to basic before 35.
Reserve/National Guard are different. They don’t require you to move for the job, and it’s generally one weekend a month with a few weeks every year doing military duty.
If he actually signed a contract it’s very likely it’s a reserve component. He will have to go to basic (which based on how you talked about him I doubt he will make it, people absolutely get admin separation from basic, it’s very common). But if he does make it, there are advantages. Tricare reserve select is a fantastic insurance policy. I recommend contacting all of your doctors and see if they take tricare. Use this to your advantage, don’t D and take advantage of the benefits it offers. He’s a serial cheat, it won’t stop, take the most out of the situation you are in
On the small chance he’s actually active, (or that he actually enlisted) which I highly doubt, you don’t have to go with him. He joined not you, and you don’t have to go with him. You already know that if does ship out he will cheat on you again, so take advantage of Tricare benefits and live your best life. Google Tricare and look at what it offers, do your research.
Active duty is called Tricare Prime or standard (standard requires more out of pocket but allows for more health care options)
Reserve is called Tricare Reserve Select (more out of pocket as well but again a lot of freedom to choose providers)
Prime requires seeing a military Primary Care and referrals for any specific medical condition, but it’s completely free.
The min you d him, you lose any right to the military benefits.
I have over 2 decades of experience in the military, let me know if you have questions. I think he is lying and didn’t actually enlist, but again on the small chance he’s telling the truth I feel you should milk it for everything you can
Edit to add: I am assuming US Military about every thing, if not I will say I know nothing
One more Edit: In the US military, adultery is a crime and he can be kicked out for it, yes I am serious. It doesn’t matter what state your relationship is in, if he is legally married he can be punished and kicked out. Think about it, get your power back. No, you are not subject to military law and it won’t apply to you at all.
[This message edited by HellIsNotHalfFull at 1:29 AM, Friday, March 8th]