SatyaMom (original poster member #83919) posted at 11:45 AM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
After two years of this nonsense…..I am seriously considering a move for 6-12 months to Portugal! I used to live in Europe so it feels like home. I need a break, quiet alone time and I’m seriously ready to just go! Anyone else done anything like this?
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:18 PM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
I went to Bali for a month :-) I could only leave for a month but I found a change in latitude helped change my attitude. My problems did not go away but I spent the time doing LOTS of yoga, meditating, reading, exploring, swimming, and seeking spiritual experiences. It reminded me of the opportunities and living I still had ahead of me. It was nice not to see all those triggers every day. But there were moments of profound loneliness and I worked through those, which was helpful.
It was healing, but I also worked hard while there to heal.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
SatyaMom (original poster member #83919) posted at 8:54 PM on Friday, December 19th, 2025
Oh I love Bali! Been there twice …..but for me too far away long term….I have duly children in NYC and DC. I’m pretty excited about this
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 11:57 PM on Sunday, December 21st, 2025
I've spent many nights scrolling through properties in Portugal. Sounds exciting.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me: now 58 STBXWW:now 56 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Di
Asterisk ( member #86331) posted at 8:16 PM on Tuesday, December 23rd, 2025
I recently returned from Portugal. My wife and I were considering moving there. Lovely country but decided it was not what we were looking for. The best part was a Buddha garden adventure. It was breathtaking! We lived in Ecuador for around 7 years. I loved it there. I honestly recommend living in different cultures. It expands a person’s perspective.
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Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 5:51 PM on Friday, December 26th, 2025
So now I'm watching videos on moving to Portugal.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me: now 58 STBXWW:now 56 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Di
numbandnauseous ( member #34525) posted at 8:27 AM on Monday, December 29th, 2025
I have thought about moving out of the US for a few years. My teenagers will be going to college in about a year, so I can't do anything just yet.... There's a lot of info out there about moving to a different country. Will you be a "digital nomad?" If not, depending on the country, you may have to leave every 3 months. Other options for staying long term are investing in real estate in Portugal or having an EU passport. You also have to show that you have income/assets. Have you been to Portugal for any length of time? Might be a good idea to take a trip there first. I fully support you - sounds like a lot of fun!
BS (me) - 55
WH - EA with HS GF x 2, died in 2019 at age 55
M: 15 years, T: 20, divorced in 2015
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
SatyaMom (original poster member #83919) posted at 7:58 PM on Tuesday, December 30th, 2025
Yes I lived in Europe for 8 years and thank u im aware of visa requirements
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, December 31st, 2025
I say, Do it!!! I am moving back overseas once I get my internship and certifications put of the way. Probably Germany or Austria, but I also speak Spanish. Maybe Spain. Or, I'll learn a new language. I cant wait to get away for a few years. I'll eventually come back, but I need a break from the US for a little bit.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
SatyaMom (original poster member #83919) posted at 12:10 PM on Thursday, January 1st, 2026
I lived in Germany for 8 years…my favorite. I wish it were more "affordable" and had an easier visa process…it’s quite challenging actually. Portugal much easier rap for those 50+
SatyaMom (original poster member #83919) posted at 12:08 AM on Friday, January 9th, 2026
Booked my scouting trip - so excited. Going in March
