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My day was almost 18 years ago and the FOW just tried to befriend my husband on Facebook. Should I tell her husband? I have screenshots from her most recent fishing expedition (last freaking week) as well as her last try in 2017 where she told my husband that their " time was real and she will love him forever."

I will send it to his work email.

[This message edited by crazycatlady at 9:04 PM, Tuesday, May 14th]

I think you should send it to him absolutely. Especially the I will forever love you crap. As a BH, I would want to know if my WW was sending that to any man. Don’t care if it’s 18 years later.

I sent it. Fuck that bitch. She is evil.

I sent it. Fuck that bitch. She is evil.

I woulda too.

Holy crap. My DDay was 20 years ago and I'm reasonably sure the AP still carries a torch for my H, based on social media posts. People have told me that it's unlikely; that she's probably moved on. Yeah well, some of them don't move on, do they?!

I sent it. Fuck that bitch. She is evil.

Good for you. I would definitely go scorched earth in that situation.

Let her tend to her own mess at home.

I would have done the same, I feel that was the right call. It’s pretty pathetic to be pinning over an AP almost 2 decades later. Clearly OW hasn’t gotten her shit together at all.

Agree with what you did. That woman needs to be out of your life immediately. How pathetic that she is still reaching out..

Meanwhile, please take care of yourself. I’m sure this was a very unpleasant shock.

Can I ask what was your WH’s reaction? Did he tell you? Did you discover by yourself?

Good on you for contacting her BS. If there is one thing that infidelity has taught me. If any man EVER sticks their nose into my world again, they will rue the day that they ever crossed that line. There are no limits to the hell that I will bring upon their world.

As a cop I had to learn when to turn the blind eye on what was happening. Like... someone doing 2-3 miles over the limit was technically breaking the law, but if that was on a wide, empty road then maybe a short flashing of my lights would suffice. No need to pull anyone over and issue citations.

Well...
I’m flashing my Attaché lights...
This forum does not allow name-calling.
It’s more lenient of the original poster is the one doing so – therefore my hesitation in even flashing the lights... But lets make life that little bit easier for si staff by avoiding it henceforth.

But then - maybe by associating the female gender of my favorite animals to the OW might be an affront to the whole K9 population, and that might be worth turning on the emergency lights...

BTW – crazycatlady – I think you did right in sending it to her husband.

Sorry for my language. I was definitely angry. I love dogs and she is no dog, she wouldn’t even make a good tick.
As for my husbands reaction, he was upset as well. He was aghast that she was still trolling. Apparently she has many former targets she does this to. I found it in his junk mail, unopened. She had tried to befriend him on Facebook and also tried to send a message thru Facebook messenger. I was looking for emails I had forwarded about our upcoming vacation and thought they were in the junk folder and voila, there it was. My husband is very untech savvy. I’ve seen three year olds with better tech skills.
I have yet to hear from her husband. Doubt that I will but if he does contact me is there any advice yall have?

Tell him what you know, provide any evidence you have. I assume he knows about the original A 18 years ago. If not, and he asks, provide that as well. Then honestly, after that I would keep out of it and let him handle it his way.

Especially since the A is very much over based on what you said, I would strongly recommend not getting involved past giving evidence he asks for. Anything past that has massive potential to bring crazy OW back into your life and you both don’t need that. I would suggest be prepared to block him as well. Your focus is your marriage/life.

Excellent advice! Thank you all!

Wow- I thought NOT name calling was for people who were not active members. Thanks for letting me know.

I am glad you sent it to her husband. She was fine with her attempt to blow up your world.

Holy crap. My DDay was 20 years ago and I'm reasonably sure the AP still carries a torch for my H, based on social media posts. People have told me that it's unlikely; that she's probably moved on. Yeah well, some of them don't move on, do they?!

Hehe I won’t tell you that again! And the Pinterest thing was weird too. I looked it up, apparently you can’t block people as well in that app and that must be why this is a thing!

Hehe I won’t tell you that again! And the Pinterest thing was weird too. I looked it up, apparently you can’t block people as well in that app and that must be why this is a thing!

You're not the only one! Everyone who hears about this nonsense says the same thing.

I wish like hell that I could block her. All that blocking does on Pinterest is make it so that we can't message each other or save each other's pins. I'd like to be able to block myself from creeping on her.

Good for you for exposing! Keep your evidence in s very safe place.

Consider hiring an attorney to send a Cease & Desist. Make sure OBS gets a copy.

Sadly, we had to do that. LTAP just wouldn't go away and every so often would try to creep back in.

Pathetic and disgusting.

Be extra gentle with yourself. And pat yourself on the back for being a badass :)

LOL! I just revisited this post after commenting the other day and I was just about to write "where’s Chaos when we need her!" For more insight to which I’m referring, read her signature at the bottom of her posts.

Chaos, you rock! 😁

It's been a rough week. For everyone that posted I'd like to give a virtual hug and thanks. I never heard back from her husband. Not sure I would but there's always the chance she intercepted the email. oh well.
Thank you again for your timely and excellent advice.